Astrology Says You Shouldn't Wed in 2021—But Your Relationship Can Still Thrive This Year

"It's not a great year for weddings, unfortunately."

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When we reported last year that couples shouldn't get married during wedding season in 2020, we had had no idea that the stars were alluding to a global pandemic. But alas, COVID-19 struck in March and the wedding industry hasn't been the same since. So what about 2021? Does astrology have any good news to report? We spoke with professional astrologer Jessica Lanyadoo to find out.

Meet the Expert

Jessica Lanyadoo has been a professional astrologer for more than 20 years and is the author of Astrology For Real Relationships. She writes horoscopes weekly and is the host of Ghost of a Podcast.

In short, while the stars look much different this year than they did last, it doesn't mean our upcoming challenges do. Lanyadoo tells Brides, "The theme here is so much about adaptability—and we all will have the need for adaptability. It's important to be flexible and adaptable with your plans. This whole industry is going to have to pivot."

Lucky for current brides and grooms, the wedding industry has already had ten months to perfect the art of changing plans and making new ones—just look at our Brides American Wedding Study for proof! Ahead, everything you need to know before you walk down the aisle this year, according to astrology.

The Cause of the Chaos

Speaking frankly, Lanyadoo advises couples against tying the knot in 2021. Why? Blame a major transit known as Saturn square Uranus that "tends to coincide with delays and frustrations and best-laid plans being subject to curveballs," she explains. The transit will be present all year and will be most powerful on February 17, June 14, and December 24, so consider these wedding dates to avoid.

And just like 2020, which was littered with Mercury and Venus retrogrades, 2021 is no different. "The thing about Mercury Retrograde is that the plans we make during Mercury Retrograde, and also the events that we have scheduled, tend to run into unexpected surprises. They tend to have silly miscommunications or mistakes, like just forgetting to cross your T's and dot your I's can end up having meaningful results."

It is considered unwise to sign contracts during a Mercury retrograde—another reason why Lanyadoo advises against a trip to the altar this year.

Lanyadoo continues, "It's not a great year for weddings, unfortunately. A big part of that is, of course, COVID."

Navigating Wedding Planning in 2021

But if you've already postponed your nuptials once or can't wait to marry the love of your life any longer, you can still get married this year. Lanyadoo just has a few sentiments all engaged couples should follow:

Be Flexible

The stars say the theme of 2021 is adaptability—and couples must do just that. "So as much as possible," she advises, "create plans and strategies for your event that have flexibility to them." That means being able to downsize your guest list at a moment's notice or adjust your seating arrangements on the fly. When hiccups arise in your day (and they most likely will), tackle them poise.

Make a List, Check It Twice

The presence of Mercury Retrogrades throughout the year, like Lanyadoo mentioned, also impacts wedding planning. But that doesn't mean you can't do the bulk of your planning during this flow, rather you must be aware that more details are susceptible to going wrong than usual. Lanyadoo elaborates, "When these Mercury Retrograde periods are occurring if you're going to plan a meaningful event the key is to just scrutinize your plan. Triple check everything. It doesn't mean don't get married, it simply means be really, again, adaptable, flexible, and careful with your planning."

Below, when the three Mercury Retrogrades will occur in 2021.

  • January 30 to February 19
  • June 1 to June 21
  • September 28 to October 16

Rethink Your Big Day

"This is a great time to think about alternatives to traditional weddings," she adds. And as many of us have come to know in the past year those alternatives are aplenty. Rather than taking on the stresses of planning a traditional wedding during a pandemic (which we say you shouldn't do!), envision a unique day from the get-go. From micro weddings to elopements to Zoom "I dos," there are ways to tie the knot safely—and somewhat stress-free—in 2021. Heck, a new trend is even emerging known as an anniversary reception: A party held on a married couple's wedding anniversary in lieu of a traditional reception on their actual wedding day. So, having a smaller affair this year is an excuse to throw an over-the-top soirée in 2022. Who wouldn't want to celebrate twice?!

Positive Effects on Your Relationship

But wedding-related challenges aside, the astrological chaos of 2021 can actually benefit your romantic relationship. Lanyadoo believes, "What truly defines a marriage is how you handle hardship—and 2021 does come with its fair share of hardship." Consider the challenges 2021 throws everyone's way as an opportunity to strengthen your relationship and lay the foundation of a long-lasting marriage.

"It doesn't have to be a negative omen for a marriage to have a wedding during a difficult time. It can be instead an opportunity to come together as a team in ways that you wouldn't otherwise have."

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