What Is a Twin Flame? 8 Signs You've Met Your Match

This kind of love goes beyond a soul mate.

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Chances are that somewhere in your travels across the internet, you’ve stumbled upon the term “twin flame.” It’s also likely that you pooh-poohed the concept, thinking twin flames are synonymous with soul mates. And you’ve heard it all before, so you just kept scrolling because the end of the internet awaits. The terms “twin flame love” and “soul mate” are often confused and used interchangeably. However, a twin flame love goes beyond what we think of when we think of soul mates.

What Is a Twin Flame?

A twin flame is an incredibly intense soul connection. A more apt description of a twin flame is a “mirror soul” or a person’s “other half.”

We caught up with expert Todd Savvas to help us unpack the mystery of twin flame relationships. According to Savvas, “A twin flame is your own soul, shared across what appears to be two physical beings. It’s one soul split into two bodies.” Digging a little deeper, Savvas once wrote of twin flames: “When a soul is created, it is split into two parts, mirrors of each other, constantly yearning to reconnect.”

Meet the Expert

Todd Savvas is a spiritual teacher, contemporary mystic, and sage. His unique approach to spirituality merges age-old wisdom and modern-day savvy.

Purpose of a Twin Flame 

At its core, twin flame love is about spiritual growth, and its purpose is to awaken your soul. Savvas notes, “The purpose of discovering your twin flame is to speed up your growth, to release wounds, remove blockages, and lead you to true self-love.” Moreover, these relationships can be incredibly challenging because they shine a light on your insecurities and your deepest fears for that spiritual growth to happen, and that can be difficult to face.

“Twin flame encounters present a mirror. The things you don’t want to deal with, the doubts you have, the inadequacy you see in yourself, will all come up through their presence," says Savvas. He goes on to explain that while twin flame relationships are tumultuous, they should not be confused with toxic relationships. “The twin flame isn’t doing anything to make you feel that way; your fears are just heightened and activated.”

Twin flame relationships aren’t always romantic in nature. The soul connection can just as easily be found between platonic friends, and mentor/mentee twin flames are not uncommon. Savvas notes, “The mind wants to make this a romantic story, where everything works out easily.” But twin flame relationships are difficult by design. “In truth, this relationship is designed to test and develop your very understanding of yourself and your energy.”

Twin Flame Love vs. Other Types of Relationships

Savvas tells us that twin flame relationships are different from others because they are uniquely unique. “Since a twin flame is actually your soul shared across two physical forms, it differs from other relationships because it’s a type of connection and journey that cannot be shared with anyone else on Earth—you only have one twin flame.”

While soul mates can be great romantic partners, that relationship doesn’t elevate to the heights of a twin flame. Savvas offers this eloquent description of a twin flame versus a soul mate: “Think of it as each soul having its own tune. Soul mates sing a tune that’s closer to you than anyone else in the world. However, a twin flame is you. So, your twin flame holds the same soul tune as you do.”

Signs You’ve Found Your Twin Flame Love 

Every new relationship brings its own set of intense emotions, sleepless nights, butterflies, and fireworks. Clarity and level-headedness are not frequent descriptors. So how do you know when you’ve met your twin flame? Needless to say that when your head is in the clouds, everything is so much more confusing. To help you make heads or tails of it, here are eight signs you’ve met your match.

Instant Recognition and Intense Attraction 

When you meet your twin flame, there’s an immediate sense of recognition and intense attraction. In an instant, your bond is solidified, and all the pieces of your life just seem to come together.


Twin flames often have a sense of synchronicity. As the relationship unfolds, twin flames will find that they have a shared moral compass and matching interests. Moreover, twin flames often uncover plenty of “coincidences” and similar past experiences.

Intense Emotions

When you meet your twin flame, you will find that your emotions are amplified. Everything you feel—both good and bad—will feel notably stronger and even overwhelming.

Amplified Insecurities and Doubts 

Just as your emotions are amplified, so are your insecurities, your fears, and your doubts. Remember that your twin flame is your mirror, and their purpose is to show you the things that are holding you back, like your fears and insecurities, so that you can work through them, grow, and come out stronger on the other side.

Feeling Drawn to the Other Person 

Twin flame relationships are magnetic. From the moment you meet, you feel inexplicably drawn to the other person. This feeling never seems to wane, either. It’s a constant overwhelming pull, and while the attraction can be sexual, it’s more often just the desire to be in that person’s presence. 

The Relationship Is Turbulent 

Twin flame relationships are not all sunshine and lollipops; more often than not, they’re rocky and chaotic. The “ugly” part of your twin flame relationship is really just a result of the fact that you’re being forced to confront and “own” the parts of you that you don’t like—parts that you’d rather not see. When the curtain is pulled back, it can be unsettling at best.

You’re On Again, Off Again 

As a result of that turbulence, your relationship with your twin flame will likely be on again, off again. Coming face to face with your demons and battling with powerful emotions can be overwhelming, to say the least. And when it feels like there’s too much to handle, you (or your twin flame) may be inclined to throw in the towel.

The thing to remember here is that it’s never permanent. You and your twin flame will always find a way back to each other. Whether it’s a week, a month, years, or decades, you will find a way back.

You're Inspired to Be a Better Person

The purpose of a twin flame relationship is to awaken you to your untapped potential and ignite a fire deep inside you. This relationship pushes you to do and be better, and at the end of the day, it opens up a world of possibilities you never even dreamed of. “This journey demands spiritual growth," says Savvas. Without growth, it’s impossible to get past your fears and whatever else is holding you back. Twin flame love is incredibly powerful, and it serves a distinct purpose: It elevates you to a better version of yourself.

  • Does everyone have a twin flame?

    No. Twin flame connections are very rare as they require a split in the soul to be created. Those who don't have a twin flame have yet to experience this fracture.

  • When do twin flames meet?

    The purpose of a twin flame is to achieve greater personal and spiritual growth. Typically a twin flame reunion is divinely timed for when both halves are ready to experience that growth and undergo the challenges required to do so.

  • What zodiac signs are twin flames?

    A person's zodiac sign is not an accurate determinant of who their twin flame is, as it only illuminates one part of their persona. While astrology can do little to help you find your twin flame, synastry charts (a comparison of two people's birth charts) can help guide you through such a relationship.

  • What happens if you don't meet your twin flame?

    Twin flames are meant to reunite with one another, but that doesn't always mean that they do. Sometimes twin flames don't recognize each other immediately. If one or both halves have not achieved the necessary level of growth individually, the meeting could be stalled indefinitely.

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