These Are the Top Questions Engaged Couples Have About Coronavirus

We have answers—and will continue to update as the situation evolves.

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Whether you’re having your wedding at home or abroad, there are countless moving parts surrounding COVID-19. As you navigate the difficult decisions that need to be made, including postponing or canceling your wedding, we’re here to be a source of information for you.

Our team will continue to speak with experts across the wedding industry to answer your specific questions regarding coronavirus and wedding planning. As always, we aim to help you during every step of your wedding journey, and this current situation is no exception. Answering all of your questions, connecting you to experts, and being a helpful resource for you is our number one priority right now.

Below, you'll find a Q&A of reader-submitted questions about coronavirus and wedding planning. We will continue to update these FAQs—and will be answering additional questions on Instagram, so don't hesitate to shoot us a message.

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How to tell your parents you’re eloping?

Although we tend to subscribe to “ask for permission, not forgiveness,” we aren’t completely opposed to surprising family and friends with the news of your elopement. It prevents a lot of hurt feelings and opinions that you may not want to hear before taking the leap!

-Virginia Trafton Frischkorn of Bluebird Productions, wedding planner, on March 14, 2021

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How can I make my now 20-person wedding instead of 150 still feel like a fun party?

Do you remember those fun nights of getting ready with friends before going out or the smaller house parties when you could be your most vulnerable, real, and fun self! Channel that energy and remember that size doesn’t matter when it comes to your wedding reception. Surround yourself with your loved ones and make the celebration and reception a night to remember. Serve amazing alcohol, turn up the tunes and cherish the moment.

-Virginia Trafton Frischkorn of Bluebird Productions, wedding planner, on March 14, 2021

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Small wedding now and a big reception later—rehearsal din for both?

Nah! Do the rehearsal dinner before the small wedding and do the larger reception and party without the traditional rehearsal dinner before.

-Virginia Trafton Frischkorn of Bluebird Productions, wedding planner, on March 14, 2021

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When would you suggest we estimate final headcount for a wedding?

While it’s tempting to estimate a headcount and final headcount months before a wedding, remember that until you’re about a month out (rsvp due date) the estimate is a hopeful guess. Keep vendors posted with your guesses throughout the planning process, at the RSVP due date and, of course, the week of the wedding.

-Virginia Trafton Frischkorn of Bluebird Productions, wedding planner, on March 14, 2021

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OK or not: asking guests if they will be vaccinated before the wedding?

We believe it’s OK to ask guests if they’d consider vaccination before the wedding (if they’re eligible) but it’s a challenge to make this a demand for attendance.

-Virginia Trafton Frischkorn of Bluebird Productions, wedding planner, on March 14, 2021

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Is invitation or RSVP only-by-proof-of-vaccination going to become a thing?

We believe this may be a thing for some couples but not the vast majority. While everyone’s safety is always a top priority, this is a hard ask until 100 percent of the population is eligible for a vaccination.

-Virginia Trafton Frischkorn of Bluebird Productions, wedding planner, on March 14, 2021

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With restrictions changing a lot, how far out should we send invites?


With the restrictions changing so often, we are suggesting six weeks with the unknown still there.  This allows the client a little more time to adjust the guest count or change the plan if needed.  

-Neillie Butler of Mariée Ami, wedding planner, on March 14, 2021

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How much earlier should couples be booking vendors than normal?

Booking vendors 12 to 15 months out is becoming the norm. We suggest you get your team of vendors in place as soon as you are engaged and then take a deep breath while you gather inspiration and work on the guest list.

-Neillie Butler of Mariée Ami, wedding planner, on March 14, 2021

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What can I do at the wedding to tell if people want to social distance and separate them?

I have found that it is easy to identify who wants their space and who is comfortable by their body language and actions. If they are wearing a mask, avoiding food and drink, and taking advantage of the tables separated from the rest, it is clear they want to be extra cautious and would appreciate some space.  

-Neillie Butler of Mariée Ami, wedding planner, on March 14, 2021

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I’m getting married in 2023. When should I start planning?

I would say 15 to 18 months out for a destination or big production wedding.  The planners and vendors need more time than normal given the heavy workload they are experiencing from a year and a half of postponements.  With the end of COVID-19 hopefully in sight, the desire to plan social events is at an all-time high and we expect to see this surge through 2023. Allowing more time will ensure thoughtful decision-making.  

-Neillie Butler of Mariée Ami, wedding planner, on March 14, 2021

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Thoughts on getting an Airbnb as my wedding venue?

This can be a good idea as long as Airbnb allows events and has all the necessary permits and legal approvals from its town. Many homes are not zoned or suited for events, meaning they may not have enough parking or infrastructure to handle it. When planning at an Airbnb also check the sound restrictions, as they could be earlier than you’d like. If the home is in a dense residential area think about the neighbors, will they call and complain, and possibly lead to a shut down of your wedding with no recourse. Getting all details and legal info from the owner of Airbnb is key before booking. Also, the scope and size of your wedding will also affect the possibility of Airbnb’s ability to host your wedding legally and effectively. If it is a tiny wedding, that matches the number of guests allowed at the house then it could work. If you are hoping to have 100 guests at an Airbnb, it would be much more complex and I would suggest confirming with the owner it is possible and legal to host it.

-Jove Meyer of Jove Meyer Events, wedding planner, on March 14, 2021

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If we are getting married in November, should we still plan for covid precautions?

Fall is feeling like a much safer option than spring or summer. Given the expansion of the COVID-19 vaccine and its speedy rollout, we feel like fall weddings will have a great chance of happening safely then! That being said, COVID-19 precautions will likely be around for a while to come. Gatherings can be a place of spread if we are not careful so I do anticipate we will see covid precautions like mask requirements, socially distanced dancing, temperature checks, negative tests, and/or others. Remember these precautions are to protect you and your loved ones, but they are also in place to protect the staff and vendors making your celebration come to life.

-Jove Meyer of Jove Meyer Events, wedding planner, on March 14, 2021

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What’s a wedding trend you think will be popular in 2021?

I think couples will push the boundaries of colorful decor and design! They will design beyond the traditional, classic white and gold and really push all the joy they have into a bright, bold celebration! We have been waiting so long to celebrate that when we can it will be an explosion of joy, color, and colors!

 Couples will lean into more casual celebrations, not so focused on black tie but more focused on fun! After a year in sweatpants, we cannot just switch to tuxedos and gowns like that! I think we will see weddings become more informal and food-focused, as dancing as we knew it may or may not be possible given restrictions.

-Jove Meyer of Jove Meyer Events, wedding planner, on March 14, 2021

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COVID friendly activities during a wedding?

Creative food stations, with the caterer staff serving from behind a screen safely. Think next-level ice cream sundae bars with every topping you could imagine! Or a loaded french fry station with cheese, bacon, chives, gravy, and other delicious toppings that we all love and crave! Food will be a focus so find ways to enjoy it creatively! 

Also, wedding scavenger hunts! Create a list of fun activities guests can do safely and at a distance during the wedding! A list of things they would love and enjoy alone or with their date/pod: Take a shot! Strike a pose in the photo booth! Choreo your own dance and film it! Make an ice cream sundae! 

-Jove Meyer of Jove Meyer Events, wedding planner, on March 14, 2021

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Do you think it’s micro-weddings only in 2021, too?

We think the trend of having an intimate gathering will be around for many years to come. There is something special about being surrounded by your closest friends and family that has come from the COVID-19 pandemic that we at Evoke believe will continue in years to come, that being said, it is our expectation that the 2019-style wedding and event will be back before the calendar turns. 

-Jeannette Tavernes of Evoke Design & Creative, wedding planner, on March 14, 2021

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How far in advance do need to decide if we should postpone our wedding again?

We recommend making the decision to postpone your wedding three to six months prior. Three months in advance for a smaller wedding that has more local guests. This will allow you just enough time to adjust your plans or scale back and still notify guests with plenty of time. 

For destination weddings and extremely large multi-day productions, we recommend making the decision to postpone six-plus months in advance. Larger events have more logistics—and, in order to focus on the guest experience, providing more of an ample timeline will allow you more time to digest the decision, move to plan B, and provide your guests with time to adjust their plans. 

-Jeannette Tavernes of Evoke Design & Creative, wedding planner, on March 14, 2021

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Is 18-24 months “too long” for an engagement?

No, not at all!  18 to 24-month engagement is totally great! A longer engagement will give you and your fiancé time to soak in the newly engaged bliss and enjoy the planning process at a slower pace. With more lead time, you are able to secure a better date and stellar vendor team! With a longer engagement, we recommend spreading out celebratory events, such as bridal showers, bachelorette parties, groomsmen outings to keep the excitement going! 

-Jeannette Tavernes of Evoke Design & Creative, wedding planner, on March 14, 2021

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Alternatives to dancing?

We have found that our couples are gravitating towards an extended cocktail hour rather than dancing at micro weddings. Cocktail experiences for guests allow for reduced bar lines and the opportunity to experience new innovative drinks.

Technically dancing…but in a safe way: We think silent disco is coming back! Guests can all listen to the same music channel, but dance in their own spaces—we think this will be a fun and safe way to continue to celebrate and have that desired dance party! 

-Jeannette Tavernes of Evoke Design & Creative, wedding planner, on March 14, 2021

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How to make a small wedding feel special?

With smaller events, you have the opportunity to add more personal touches. Recently we organized virtual “getting ready” sessions with the bride and her bridesmaids and dear friends that couldn’t attend the celebration. Our brides were able to see their special friends and toast with custom mimosa kits that were sent to each virtual attendee.

When it comes to design, you can provide a more over-the-top experience in terms of the overall look. If you were once holding back on something you wanted in regard to rentals, or customized menus, or just more lush arrangements. Now is your time to do it! 

With all Evoke events, we make sure the guest experience is at the forefront of planning, with smaller events, you can do just that by making each guest experience a bit more personal from handwritten invitations to meal planning! 

-Jeannette Tavernes of Evoke Design & Creative, wedding planner, on March 14, 2021

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How much earlier should couples be booking vendors than normal?

Book those wedding vendors as fast as you can! All the weddings from 2020 got postponed to this year and next year and as soon as you secure your date you need to start reaching out to those vendors ASAP.

-Jenny Fu, wedding photographer, on March 4, 2021

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Tips for making the delayed wedding celebration (if we already got married) special?

Having a wedding coming out of the pandemic will be special in itself. It'll likely be the biggest party of the year! Make it special by showing some pictures of your elopement or some quirky, funny love stories that you shared during your time in quarantine.

-Jenny Fu, wedding photographer, on March 4, 2021

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Elopement ideas for couples who have to postpone their big wedding?

Eloping is such a fabulous idea. By downsizing, you can have your elopement just about anywhere. In New York City I've seen elopements at parks, Airbnbs, hotel rooftops, even inside your home.

-Jenny Fu, wedding photographer, on March 4, 2021

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Thoughts on getting an Airbnb as my wedding venue?

Using an Airbnb as your elopement venue is a great idea! Just a couple of things to consider going in: Make sure that they allow events and make sure that there is enough furniture on-site for when you want to have your reception dinner after you elope.

-Manda Worthington, wedding planner, on March 4, 2021

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How do we involve our loved ones if we are eloping?

So I think a really cool way of being able to involve your loved ones back home when you're eloping is, one, make sure you hire a videographer so that everything is captured from your elopement and you can hopefully go home and have a viewing party later on. And two, if you can ask people you're super close with back home to write you a love letter or some words of encouragement and you can even get on that video where you are reading those letters to each other. I think that's a really special way to involve everyone back home when you elope.

-Manda Worthington, wedding planner, on March 4, 2021

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How much should I be spending on flowers?

"I do think florals are a huge personal preference, but I love flowers! I use a lot of florals in all of my designs and I always recommend having about ten percent of your overall budget designated just to flowers.

-Manda Worthington, wedding planner, on March 4, 2021

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Can you have a civil marriage for legal purposes and then be married in the Catholic church?

Yes, absolutely! You can always do your civil wedding for legal purposes and later on, you can get married at a Catholic church.

-Tatiana Angel, international wedding and event planner on, October 10, 2020

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I just got engaged—what are the best places to start planning a wedding with COVID?

Depending on the city and state that you live in and the regulations that apply, I would highly suggest you choose an outdoor location. Whether it's a farm, backyard wedding or beach wedding, you can always play it safe for your guests.

-Tatiana Angel, international wedding and event planner on, October 10, 2020

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Best way to update guests of postonement?

Every possible way is the way! If you have to postpone, please tell your guests. Email, call! If you have the budget, come up with a beautiful card and mail it. They would appreciate it.

-Tatiana Angel, international wedding and event planner on, October 10, 2020

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Micro wedding tips?

Since you've already pared down the guest list, you might find it easier to indulge in that five-course meal or to upgrade your stationery suite. Whatever it is, I think that the best micro wedding tip is to indulge in experiences.

-Roxanne Bellamy, event planner and designer, on October 10, 2020

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What are considered "safe" venues right now?

Immediately I think outdoors—wide, open and airy. Estates, gardens, spacious backyards, rooftop decks even! Anywhere that I can ensure that everyone is socially distanced and I can minimize risk.

-Roxanne Bellamy, event planner and designer, on October 10, 2020

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Hope for overseas wedding in September 2021?

International travel [in] 2021? Yes. What you want to make sure is that your event planner is contacting the ministry of health and that they're abreast of any updates to the travel advisories and regulations. Be safe!

-Roxanne Bellamy, event planner and designer, on October 10, 2020

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How to try and ask for a refund over cancelled weddings?

I would suggest reviewing your agreement and making sure that you understand what your options are for cancelling, are aware of any subsequent fees or loss of retainers. This should make it clear if a refund is available or not and please bear in mind that in my personal experience, most retainer fees are non-refundable.

-Dennis Roy Coronel, wedding photographer, on October 10, 2020

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Not happy with original photographer. How do you break the news of hiring a new one?

Well first off, please review your current agreement and make sure you understand your options for cancelling, any subsequent fees and loss of retainer. Honesty is your best ally and communicating when you're concerned might help alleviate the situation or simply make it easier for you to break ties.

-Dennis Roy Coronel, wedding photographer, on October 10, 2020

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When is it too late to postpone?

The latest that we would suggest holding off to postpone would be about six weeks (when your invitations are supposed to go out). That said, we also strongly suggest having a back-up plan in place and having a date confirmed that works for all your vendors and your team.

-Heather Balliet, wedding planner, on August 28, 2020

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Micro wedding tips???

Splurge! Spend that money, honey! Now that you have less guests, wow them! This is the time to go all out. Upgrade the florals, update the menu (maybe some caviar!) or maybe take advantage of some of the vendors that were originally booked for your day.

-Fallon Carter, wedding planner, on August 28, 2020

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How to plan a Spring 2021 destination wedding? Need advice during this crazy time!

For your international wedding, make sure that you and your vendor partners are all aligned when it comes to cancellation policies, rescheduling and/or potential travel bans. But also consider when are you communicating that to guests? And also consider domestic destinations.

-Fallon Carter, wedding planner, on August 28, 2020

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Should I still have bridesmaids?

COVID has taught us less is more! So I would say have those bridesmaids support you from the audience. They can still be celebrating on the first row or second row but make this time a little more intimate for you and your [partner].

-Darryl Moore, wedding planner, on August 28, 2020

I mean, I'm a huge fan of zero wedding party, especially now with COVID. Less is more! So when you're thinking of hair and makeup and getting ready consider the essentials.

-Fallon Carter, wedding planner, on August 28, 2020

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Is it totally irresponsible to have a wedding right now?

You shouldn't feel irresponsible for having a wedding during this time. This is your moment! It doesn't have to be big and elaborate. It can be very beautiful and small and intimate in your home or in a private space around close friends and family.

-Darryl Moore, wedding planner, on August 28, 2020

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How should I celebrate my original wedding date?

Celebrate as fabulously as you want to! Have a glass of champagne, have a fabulous dinner and cheers to your love.

-Brian Green, wedding and event planner, on August 1, 2020

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Postpone or scale down?

The answer is both! Do what feels right for you and your circumstance.

-Brian Green, wedding and event planner, on August 1, 2020

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Micro-wedding tips?

So now that your guest count is smaller, this might be an opportunity for you to refocus your budget. You can get the photographer that initially felt out of reach to you when you had 250 guests, or maybe the wedding planner you wanted to design the most incredible dinner for you and your nearest and dearest.

-Corbin Gurkin, destination wedding photographer, on August 1, 2020

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Can I elope and party later?

Absolutely! My favorite part of photographing a wedding is the portraits and an elopement can be a great extension of that time. Focus on the two of you guys now and party later with your people when it is safe to do so.

-Corbin Gurkin, destination wedding photographer, on August 1, 2020

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How can I make my at-home wedding extra special?

Think of all the things that are sentimental to you about home and what spaces really have meaning. Your favorite tree in the backyard where you used to do summer reading? It sounds like the perfect spot for your ceremony and know that each time you return it's now going to be all the more special because you exchanged vows there.

-Corbin Gurkin, destination wedding photographer, on August 1, 2020

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Is it worth it to even book a DJ with social distancing expectations?

What's a celebration without music? Don't let coronavirus take away your spark. Play some mid-tempo music—I promise you you'll thank me later!

-Guerdy Abraira, destination wedding planner, on August 1, 2020

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I feel so bad about downsizing. How can I still involve those who don't make the cut?

Cut them out—literally! Make life-size cutouts of your friends, which will not only help to show the love you have for them but also will make a pretty good photo backdrop.

-Guerdy Abraira, destination wedding planner, on August 1, 2020

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Should we be contacting our venue to see about postponing now?

Just for peace of mind, absolutely! Contact all your vendors ASAP to ensure that they all have a courtesy hold for you on your second date so that you already have a rollover option in case January doesn't work out.

-Guerdy Abraira, destination wedding planner, on August 1, 2020

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How to "disinvite" guests due to COVID size restrictions?

I think when it comes to downsizing your guest count for your wedding right now, people are really understanding. Maybe you can explore other options such as live streaming in private groups or video conference call-ins so that people who can't be there physically can still celebrate with you.

-Morgan, photographer at In Frames Photography, on May 7, 2020

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How do I tell people we are postponing if we don't have a new date yet?

I think when it comes to postponing into the unknown, communication is key. This goes for guests and vendors. Just keep people up-to-date with any and all changes that you've made to your wedding plans by utilizing online resources, your wedding website, and social media.

-Morgan, photographer at In Frames Photography, on May 7, 2020

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How can I still take good photos for my at-home wedding? Self-timer?

One of the ways you can get creative if you don't have a photographer for your ceremony is by setting up a camera on a tripod and recording it. Then, at a later date, have your photographer come and get those quality photos that you want.

-Tec Petaja, photographer, on May 7, 2020

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What if not ALL of my vendors are available for my new date?

Speaking as a photographer, if I'm booked on your rescheduled date, I will try my hardest to find someone that's available, and I will give you a list of recommended photographers that I trust—and that I would want to shoot my own wedding.

-Tec Petaja, photographer, on May 7, 2020

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What are some ways I can still celebrate my original wedding date? We postponed our bigger party.

One of the ways you can celebrate your original wedding date is getting dressed up and hiring a photographer to come shoot you guys from afar, whether it be at your house or in a field. But definitely celebrate somehow!

-Tec Petaja, photographer, on May 7, 2020

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How to politely downsize postponed wedding?

I think the global pandemic is such a new thing that no one has ever experienced that breaking the rules of etiquette is not a problem in this situation. I think people will be very understanding. I just think the right way to do it is to have the couple call their guests individually and let them know that, unfortunately, you're going to have to downsize for these reasons and that you're sorry.

-Laurie Arons, wedding planner, on May 7, 2020

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Do I need to rethink colors if I change my wedding season?

You can stick with your original color scheme. The only colors that really change a lot in the seasons are shades of green. So in the springtime, a bright green might be a good olive green for the early fall.

-Colin Cowie, wedding and event planner, on April 19, 2020

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If you need to reduce your guest list due to COVID-19, how do you uninvite people?

Send a letter explaining exactly what the situation is. You'd love to have everyone but with only 50 people, you look forward to celebrating with them at a later time when all is back to normal."

-Colin Cowie, wedding and event planner, on April 19, 2020

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Advice on collecting 150 people's email addresses for email updates?

I know this is a daunting task but what we're recommending at Ceci New York is that on your actual RSVP card you include a line that requests your guest to please provide their email so you can update them should your date have to change.

-Ceci Johnson, founder of luxury wedding stationery studio Ceci New York, on April 19, 2020

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Do you need to send new save-the-dates and invitations if your wedding has been postponed?

I know this is a very complicated question and it depends on so many scenarios but if you've already sent your invitations, don't feel pressured that you have to send another save-the-date and another invitation. I think just sending one really great invitation announcing the new date will do the trick.

-Ceci Johnson, founder of luxury wedding stationery studio Ceci New York, on April 19, 2020

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Should I wait to send invitations or go ahead and mail them?

It's such a tricky thing but I do believe you should go ahead and mail them and then include a card that says you're closely monitoring everything and that you will update your guests if things should change.

-Ceci Johnson, founder of luxury wedding stationery studio Ceci New York, on April 19, 2020

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How do I make sure my in-laws feel included in our small elopement (ceremony delayed)?

I think one of the sweetest things to do if you have decided to elope and you still want to make your family feel included would be to make a personal video right after your ceremony so they can see your emotion and share that moment with you.

-Jana Williams, wedding photographer, on April 19, 2020

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Best friend is eloping now instead. I'm MOH—how can I help and can I still do a bachelorette still?

One way to still be an amazing maid of honor if your bride has decided to elope is throw her a virtual bachelorette party. Make it really cute: send out invites, have everyone dress up, have a signature cocktail. Make it really special. It can be really sweet.

-Jana Williams, wedding photographer, on April 19, 2020

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Can my florist still send me my original wedding flowers if I'm getting married at home now?

I think that's a very easy request and I also think it's kind of an honor. I love at-home weddings! But, just make sure you realize that what you were going to do for one venue won't necessarily look good in your home.

-Mindy Rice, floral and event designer, on April 9, 2020

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How to coordinate your summer colors into a fall wedding?

I wouldn't worry about the color you chose! I can't think of one color that wouldn't be beautiful. Mix in the seasonal branches, berries, etc, and it will be spectacular"

-Mindy Rice, floral and event designer, on April 9, 2020

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What if we postpone and then things are still bad then? Postpone again?

At this point, we are hopeful that things will resolve themselves by this fall so continuing planning and moving forward. You've waited this long to celebrate your love and you should continue to do that! Hire a great wedding planner if you don't already have one who can be an advocate and stick by your side.

-Heather Dwight, wedding planner, on April 9, 2020

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How do you suggest handling relatives that insist on you postponing your wedding?

Approach with a lot of communication and empathy when discussing postponement with relatives during this time. Is their reasoning purely financial? Is it your guests' inability to travel? Is it your wedding location that's causing concern?

-Heather Dwight, wedding planner, on April 9, 2020

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How will I know if I need to postpone my wedding?

We're experiencing a lot of postponements from our couples who are getting married in the next eight weeks. You can follow the CDC guidelines and your state governor's orders to keep everyone safe. And remember, before being a bride or groom, you're a person first!

-Sam and Sola Lee, photographer and videographer, on April 9, 2020

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What's an alternative to doing a big reception?

You can do an elopement or maybe do an intimate ceremony in your backyard or in nature. And then, maybe throw a big reception after COVID-19 is all over. One of our favorite weddings happened in their parents' backyard and it was so amazing you have no idea how much we cried! It doesn't have to be a back-up plan because of COVID-19.

-Sam and Sola Lee, photographer and videographer, on April 9, 2020

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Any advice for a bride who is going to make her own bouquet?

If you're wanting to make your own bridal bouquet, my best advice is keep it simple. Maybe try to pick one singular bloom—something hearty like roses, maybe tulips. Add that with a little greenery and keep it very basic.

-Maxine Owens, floral designer, on April 4, 2020

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Postponing wedding and florist won't get back to me on new dates. What do I do?

Like with any vendor, if it's only been a couple of days, just be a little bit patient with them as they're trying to reorganize and reschedule a multitude of events. Also, reach out to your planner if you haven't and try every outlet to reach them—IG, Facebook, call and email.

-Maxine Owens, floral designer, on April 4, 2020

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Will floral wholesalers have any florals to provide once this is all over?

I have it on really good authority from my dear friend David Beahm, who is a world-renowned floral designer, that flowers will be available once we are able to host events. It may not be exactly what you want, but they'll be available!

-Lynn Easton, destination wedding planner, on April 4, 2020

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Can you ask for a refund on your deposit if your vendor isn't available on your postponed day?

I think if you read your contract you'll find out that your deposits are non-refundable. But what we are finding is that the vendors that you are moving to that when they know that you lost your original deposit they're being a little bit more flexible on their pricing.

-Lynn Easton, destination wedding planner, on April 4, 2020

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If you need to reduce your guest list due to COVID-19, how do you uninvite people?

Remember that your guests love you and they support you and they want the best for you. So, this is what's best, unfortunately! And, if you just send them a message, let them know the situation and how you wish they were there and maybe you can create a virtual link to where they can watch from home and celebrate you guys in spirit.

-Melissa Marshall, wedding and elopement photographer, on April 4, 2020

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Should I be worried about my vendors going out of business?

So, something to think about for this one is most of your vendors are freelancers so they work from home and they can't necessarily go out of business per se. They'll be able to do your wedding no matter, even if they were to go get another job. That's kind of the beauty of freelancing. So I wouldn't worry about that!

-Peyton Byford, wedding photographer, on April 2, 2020

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My venue is asking for money to postpone. Fair or negotiable?

So this is definitely going to be different for everybody but it's important to remember that your vendors really want to support you so badly but they also need to protect their businesses. And they need your help with that! So, even by charging you $1,500, they're still going to be losing thousands and thousands.

-Peyton Byford, wedding photographer, on April 2, 2020

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Is it possible to come up with a plan B before we're ready to decide on postponing?

The answer is yes! You should 100% be working on a Plan B right now. If you're marrying in 2020 it doesn't hurt to be prepared for the worst and hope for the best. Talk to your vendors, find out their availability, their postponement policies and more and hopefully, we'll get through this and you won't have to move it!

-Beth Helmstetter, destination wedding planner and designer, on April 2, 200

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I moved my wedding from May to September—do I need to rethink colors?

My general philosophy on color palettes is you should have whatever color you want no matter what the season is. However, if you're feeling obligated to be a bit more seasonal you can always add small accents of a deeper, richer tone to your existing palette. Think chocolate brown, navy, deep gray.

-Beth Helmstetter, destination wedding planner and designer, on April 2, 200

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Should I keep my honeymoon plans?

The answer is yes, you should still be planning for your honeymoon in September. However, as a back-up plan, always, just find out your cancellation policies with the airlines and the hotels. Maybe identify a local destination that you can drive to just in case things don't clear up before then

-Beth Helmstetter, destination wedding planner and designer, on April 2, 200

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What's your point of view on a virtual wedding?

If getting married on a specific date is really important to you as a couple, then absolutely use technology to be able to do that and share it with others. And then, do the real-life, in-person larger celebration when the situation allows.

-KT Merry, destination wedding photographer, on April 2, 2020

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Can you ask for a refund on your deposit if your vendor isn't available on your postponed day?

First and foremost, you are going to want to reference your contract to find out if your deposit was refundable. Next, you're going to want to communicate with your vendors, be calm, remember that we're all in this together and work to find a creative solution that you're both happy with.

-KT Merry, destination wedding photographer, on April 2, 2020

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Is it safe to keep my wedding dress in a garment bag for 8 months?

I recommend keeping it hanging in the garment bag on the hanger strap, not on the shoulder strap because you don't want it to stretch. And if you get a moment to kind of give it some breathing room every couple weeks that's also a great idea.

-Hayley Paige, wedding dress designer, on March 30, 2020

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What should I do if my dress is for spring but my wedding is postponed to winter?

I think there are no rules anymore and a season should not dictate or restrict the style you go with. So, whether you are rocking a strapless in the winter or a sleeved style in the summer, it is your prerogative! Ultimately, this is your magic moment and you feel in love with dress so have conviction in that and don't let anything take that away from you.

-Hayley Paige, wedding dress designer, on March 30, 2020

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How long do alterations take?

On average, alterations can take anywhere from three to six weeks but it does depend on the dress and how drastic the changes are. You're just going to want to give yourself some breathing room here and if you're in a rush or a dire situation there will be some seamstresses that are working from home—you'll just have to do a little bit of research and due diligence on that.

-Hayley Paige, wedding dress designer, on March 30, 2020

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Is there any chance wedding dress production could be delayed?

This is such an unprecedented time and having flexibility and patience is absolutely key. I know I speak for a lot of businesses in that our primary concern is fulfilling the orders that have been placed. If you're worried about delays, do your best to reach out to that store via social media or their website because a lot of these businesses are still working from home even if they are physically closed.

-Hayley Paige, wedding dress designer, on March 30, 2020

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Saturday bride here—wedding postponed, and our venue is only allowing new weekday weddings, no refunds. What should we do?

Weekdays are the new weekends! I know it's a bummer to have to switch to a weekday, but I do believe it's going to be a common trend for most couples to have their celebration during the week, so embrace it.

-Amy Anaiz, wedding photographer, on March 28, 2020

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Virtual bridesmaid proposal? I wanted to ask at engagement party but that was canceled!

If you're planning a bridesmaid proposal, I would totally move forward with it. Send your girls their gift, let them know not to open it to X date, then send them an invite to meet you virtually. Have a bottle of bubbly ready for them and let them know that you'd for like them to join on your big day.

-Amy Anaiz, wedding photographer, on March 28, 2020

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If I must have less people, how do I un-invite people who got save the dates?

Alert your guests that, due to the unforeseen circumstances, you've needed to make changes to your wedding. But still, give them the opportunity to celebrate with you by looking into some virtual streaming options.

-Amy Anaiz, wedding photographer, on March 28, 2020

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Our band is requiring a postponement fee. Do you think this is open for negotiation?

Yes, 100 percent. I feel like this is a crazy situation for all of us and vendors should try to be as flexible as possible. For me, personally, I'm not charging anyone a rebooking fee as long as they book within one year of their original date.

-Jordan Voth, wedding photographer, on March 28, 2020

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How do I get excited and what should I do now that I have a new date?

How do you get excited? I imagine it's going to be even more exciting now when everyone is allowed to be back together and celebrate. I think weddings are just going to be fabulous. I would just start planning slowly!

-Marcy Blum, wedding planner, on March 28, 2020

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What questions should I be asking my vendors?

It's so important to get ahead of it and see what it would look like if you did have to reschedule your wedding. You know, we're all in this together and we all want to support each other but every contract is different between each vendor and you just want to make sure you're ahead of it and understand what that might look like.

-Valorie Darling, wedding photographer, on March 26, 2020

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Cancel or postpone? I can't imagine planning/the expenses all over again.

Postpone, postpone, postpone! Do not cancel your wedding, don't ask for your deposit back, keep your original vendor team—we want to give you the wedding of your dreams that you deserve and that will happen. But, otherwise, you might be losing out on some of your deposits because not all of them will be refundable.

-Valorie Darling, wedding photographer, on March 26, 2020

The current outbreak of coronavirus (COVID-19) has been declared a pandemic by The World Health Organization. As the situation remains fluid, we’ll be sharing tips and stories from industry experts and couples who are experiencing cancellations to give you the most up-to-date advice on how this can impact your wedding.

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