These Are the Top Questions Engaged Couples Have About Coronavirus Right Now

We have answers—and will continue to update as the situation evolves!

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We know many of our readers are grappling with the uncertainty of the COVID-19 pandemic and its impact on their wedding plans. Whether you’re having your wedding at home or abroad, there are countless moving parts surrounding COVID-19 (learn more here).

As you navigate the difficult decisions that need to be made, we’re here to be a source of information for you, and our team will continue to speak with experts across the wedding industry to answer your specific questions regarding coronavirus and wedding planning.

Below, you'll find a Q&A of reader-submitted questions about coronavirus and wedding planning. We will continue to update these FAQs—and will be answering additional questions on Instagram, so don't hesitate to shoot us a message.

As always, we aim to help you during every step of your wedding journey, and this current situation is no exception. Answering all of your questions, connecting you to experts, and being a helpful resource for you is our number one priority right now!

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Any advice for a bride who is going to make her own bouquet?

If you're wanting to make your own bridal bouquet, my best advice is keep it simple. Maybe try to pick one singular bloom—something hearty like roses, maybe tulips. Add that with a little greenery and keep it very basic.

-Maxine Owens, floral designer, on April 4, 2020

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Postponing wedding and florist won't get back to me on new dates. What do I do?

Like with any vendor, if it's only been a couple of days, just be a little bit patient with them as they're trying to reorganize and reschedule a multitude of events. Also, reach out to your planner if you haven't and try every outlet to reach them—IG, Facebook, call and email.

-Maxine Owens, floral designer, on April 4, 2020

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Should I postpone my May 29th wedding now? My venue only has June 2021 available next!

For May 29th, I would go ahead and ask your venue if they have any off-peak days open (like Thursday, Friday or Sunday). It might not be as ideal as your Saturday option but hopefully, it can still get you in within the year.

-Maxine Owens, floral designer, on April 4, 2020

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May 30th wedding—think the timing is OK?

I think it's going to depend on what state you live in. In Virginia, we are shuttered in place until June 10th. So at Easton we have moved all of our brides from April through July forward either to the fall or next year.

-Lynn Easton, destination wedding planner, on April 4, 2020

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Will floral wholesalers have any florals to provide once this is all over?

I have it on really good authority from my dear friend David Beahm, who is a world-renowned floral designer, that flowers will be available once we are able to host events. It may not be exactly what you want, but they'll be available!

-Lynn Easton, destination wedding planner, on April 4, 2020

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Can you ask for a refund on your deposit if your vendor isn't available on your postponed day?

I think if you read your contract you'll find out that your deposits are non-refundable. But what we are finding is that the vendors that you are moving to that when they know that you lost your original deposit they're being a little bit more flexible on their pricing.

-Lynn Easton, destination wedding planner, on April 4, 2020

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My wedding is in Spain in mid-July. Should I consider postponing now or wait?

As of right now, I think you have maybe one more month until you have to decide but I think even in July it will be risky for some of your guests to travel—like elderly or immune-compromised. And so, if that's not something you're willing to sacrifice then I would maybe think about postponing.

-Melissa Marshall, traveling wedding and elopement photographer, on April 4, 2020

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If you need to reduce your guest list due to COVID-19, how do you uninvite people?

Remember that your guests love you and they support you and they want the best for you. So, this is what's best, unfortunately! And, if you just send them a message, let them know the situation and how you wish they were there and maybe you can create a virtual link to where they can watch from home and celebrate you guys in spirit.

-Melissa Marshall, traveling wedding and elopement photographer, on April 4, 2020

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August bride: How can I continue with planning when things are closed?

Start emailing vendors that you're interested in working with and have some virtual time with them where you can explain your ideas and your mood boards and they can show you what they have to offer. And then I would set appointments in place for when the quarantine lifts so you guys can get together in-person and get the ball rolling.

-Melissa Marshall, traveling wedding and elopement photographer, on April 4, 2020

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Should I be worried about my vendors going out of business?

So, something to think about for this one is most of your vendors are freelancers so they work from home and they can't necessarily go out of business per se. They'll be able to do your wedding no matter, even if they were to go get another job. That's kind of the beauty of freelancing. So I wouldn't worry about that!

-Peyton Byford, traveling wedding photographer, on April 2, 2020

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My venue is asking for $1,500 extra to postpone to 2021 due to inflation. Fair or negotiable.

So this is definitely going to be different for everybody but it's important to remember that your vendors really want to support you so badly but they also need to protect their businesses. And they need your help with that! So, even by charging you $1,500, they're still going to be losing thousands and thousands.

-Peyton Byford, traveling wedding photographer, on April 2, 2020

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How long should I wait before rescheduling my wedding (planned for end of July)?

Of course, no one knows what the future holds for sure but for a wedding in July or anything past July I think waiting, kind of seeing how things progress at least until May to really start exploring other options. You just wouldn't want to jump the gun and wish you hadn't rescheduled your wedding.

-Peyton Byford, traveling wedding photographer, on April 2, 2020

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Is it possible to come up with a plan B before we're ready to decide on postponing?

The answer is yes! You should 100% be working on a Plan B right now. If you're marrying in 2020 it doesn't hurt to be prepared for the worst and hope for the best. Talk to your vendors, find out their availability, their postponement policies and more and hopefully, we'll get through this and you won't have to move it!

-Beth Helmstetter, destination wedding planner and designer, on April 2, 200

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I moved my wedding from May to September—do I need to rethink colors?

My general philosophy on color palettes is you should have whatever color you want no matter what the season is. However, if you're feeling obligated to be a bit more seasonal you can always add small accents of a deeper, richer tone to your existing palette. Think chocolate brown, navy, deep gray.

-Beth Helmstetter, destination wedding planner and designer, on April 2, 200

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Honeymoon in Italy in September. Keep our plans?

The answer is yes, you should still be planning for your honeymoon in September. However, as a back-up plan, always, just find out your cancellation policies with the airlines and the hotels. Maybe identify a local destination that you can drive to just in case things don't clear up before then

-Beth Helmstetter, destination wedding planner and designer, on April 2, 200

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What's your point of view on a virtual wedding?

If getting married on a specific date is really important to you as a couple, then absolutely use technology to be able to do that and share it with others. And then, do the real-life, in-person larger celebration when the situation allows.

-KT Merry, luxury destination wedding photographer, on April 2, 2020

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I'm a June 20201 bride. Should I be booking vendors now due to others postponing?

Yes. If having your first choice of vendors is a priority then I would absolutely move forward with booking for 2021 now. We expect it to be a very busy season for vendors with them booking out further than normal.

-KT Merry, luxury destination wedding photographer, on April 2, 2020

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Can you ask for a refund on your deposit if your vendor isn't available on your postponed day?

First and foremost, you are going to want to reference your contract to find out if your deposit was refundable. Next, you're going to want to communicate with your vendors, be calm, remember that we're all in this together and work to find a creative solution that you're both happy with.

-KT Merry, luxury destination wedding photographer, on April 2, 2020

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Is it safe to keep my wedding dress in a garment bag for 8 months?

I recommend keeping it hanging in the garment bag on the hanger strap, not on the shoulder strap because you don't want it to stretch. And if you get a moment to kind of give it some breathing room every couple weeks that's also a great idea.

-Hayley Paige, wedding dress designer, on March 30, 2020

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What should I do if my dress is for spring but my wedding is postponed to winter?

I think there are no rules anymore and a season should not dictate or restrict the style you go with. So, whether you are rocking a strapless in the winter or a sleeved style in the summer, it is your prerogative! Ultimately, this is your magic moment and you feel in love with dress so have conviction in that and don't let anything take that away from you.

-Hayley Paige, wedding dress designer, on March 30, 2020

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My wedding is in November, do I still have time to find a dress with all these store closures?

Bridal stores and designers are dealing with restrictions and safety precautions across the board so the most important thing is to set realistic expectations. As an industry professional, we are here to serve you and I do know that we have zero interest in taking an order that we cannot fill. But, every single store is different so if you are anxious to get shopping, stay on it because updates are happening every single day. Your dream dress is out there so stay persistent!

-Hayley Paige, wedding dress designer, on March 30, 2020

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How long do alterations take?

On average, alterations can take anywhere from three to six weeks but it does depend on the dress and how drastic the changes are. You're just going to want to give yourself some breathing room here and if you're in a rush or a dire situation there will be some seamstresses that are working from home—you'll just have to do a little bit of research and due diligence on that.

-Hayley Paige, wedding dress designer, on March 30, 2020

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Is there any chance wedding dress production could be delayed?

This is such an unprecedented time and having flexibility and patience is absolutely key. I know I speak for a lot of businesses in that our primary concern is fulfilling the orders that have been placed. If you're worried about delays, do your best to reach out to that store via social media or their website because a lot of these businesses are still working from home even if they are physically closed.

-Hayley Paige, wedding dress designer, on March 30, 2020

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Saturday bride here—wedding postponed, and our venue is only allowing new weekday weddings, no refunds. What should we do?

Weekdays are the new weekends! I know it's a bummer to have to switch to a weekday, but I do believe it's going to be a common trend for most couples to have their celebration during the week, so embrace it.

-Amy Anaiz, wedding photographer, on March 28, 2020

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Virtual bridesmaid proposal? I wanted to ask at engagement party but that was canceled!

If you're planning a bridesmaid proposal, I would totally move forward with it. Send your girls their gift, let them know not to open it to X date, then send them an invite to meet you virtually. Have a bottle of bubbly ready for them and let them know that you'd for like them to join on your big day.

-Amy Anaiz, wedding photographer, on March 28, 2020

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If I must have less people, how do I un-invite people who got save the dates?

Alert your guests that, due to the unforeseen circumstances, you've needed to make changes to your wedding. But still, give them the opportunity to celebrate with you by looking into some virtual streaming options.

-Amy Anaiz, wedding photographer, on March 28, 2020

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Our band is requiring a postponement fee. Do you think this is open for negotiation?

Yes, 100 percent. I feel like this is a crazy situation for all of us and vendors should try to be as flexible as possible. For me, personally, I'm not charging anyone a rebooking fee as long as they book within one year of their original date.

-Jordan Voth, wedding photographer, on March 28, 2020

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If rescheduling to 2021, do you still have to make vendor payments in 2020?

It's important to reach out to your vendors and open up that line of communication about this. If you're worried about making full payment in 2020, maybe suggest making smaller payments extending into 2021. That way, it eases the burden on both sides.

-Jordan Voth, wedding photographer, on March 28, 2020

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June 6th wedding in Colorado with lots of out of town guests. Should we postpone?

With so many people traveling from out of town for this wedding, I would probably look into postponing. We have yet to reach the peak of this and getting a jumpstart on looking at dates now versus later is probably going to be more helpful.

-Jordan Voth, wedding photographer, on March 28, 2020

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Should I cancel a bachelorette party scheduled for late April?

I would postpone it. I wouldn't cancel it. And I would consider doing something a little more low-key, perhaps, and, hopefully, close to home for these women who are going to be out of work before that. But I would never cancel it—just postpone it!

-Marcy Blum, wedding planner, on March 28, 2020

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All of my vendors want to/are willing to schedule late May wedding except my venue.

You have to decide what's more important to you: the venue or the various vendors? Because everyone is really getting pushed at the moment. Of course, you could possibly have it on a weekday.

-Marcy Blum, wedding planner, on March 28, 2020

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How do I get excited and what should I do now that I have a new date?

How do you get excited? I imagine it's going to be even more exciting now when everyone is allowed to be back together and celebrate. I think weddings are just going to be fabulous. I would just start planning slowly!

-Marcy Blum, wedding planner, on March 28, 2020

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What questions should I be asking my vendors?

It's so important to get ahead of it and see what it would look like if you did have to reschedule your wedding. You know, we're all in this together and we all want to support each other but every contract is different between each vendor and you just want to make sure you're ahead of it and understand what that might look like.

-Valorie Darling, wedding photographer, on March 26, 2020

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Cancel or postpone? I can't imagine planning/the expenses all over again.

Postpone, postpone, postpone! Do not cancel your wedding, don't ask for your deposit back, keep your original vendor team—we want to give you the wedding of your dreams that you deserve and that will happen. But, otherwise, you might be losing out on some of your deposits because not all of them will be refundable.

-Valorie Darling, wedding photographer, on March 26, 2020

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In the middle of doing my legal paperwork for my wedding in Italy in May, do I carry on?

I personally would postpone any European weddings until 2021, just the current state of Italy and the world in general right now.

-Valorie Darling, wedding photographer, on March 26, 2020

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Should I postpone my June wedding?

Currently, none of my four June weddings are postponing. We are discussing potential dates that all vendors are available for in the fall, but nobody, at this point, is actually pulling the trigger to postpone their wedding. I think they are waiting for a couple of weeks.

-Eric Kelley, wedding photographer, on March 26, 2020

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My planner doesn't agree on postponing the wedding at the end of May. Who do I do?

I actually have a wedding on May 30th and the venue is close until May 21st. I think you are going to need to wait two to three weeks to see where things fall.

-Eric Kelley, wedding photographer, on March 26, 2020

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Should I still out save the dates for my September wedding?

If you're getting married in the fall, I think it's totally fine to send out save the dates. But I would know, are you in the window of when you should send out save the dates? If you're pushing up that deadline, maybe consider sending a digital save the date instead of a hard copy.

-Eric Kelley, wedding photographer, on March 26, 2020

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If I postpone my wedding, do I need to pay my planner more?

This 100 percent depends on the contract that you have with your planner. Some of them will base it on their pricing structure/if the design needs to change/how far out your new date is. I would consult your contract and planner to figure that out.

-Wendy Kay, designer/planner at Birds of a Feather Events, on March 26, 2020

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Late May bride! 5/23. Still holding out hope! Advice?

If you haven't already, you should start working on your plan B. Send one group email to check available dates to see if everyone can make one date work, and then you'll be in a much better position down the road to make a quick decision if you need to.

-Wendy Kay, designer/planner at Birds of a Feather Events, on March 26, 2020

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Is it seriously bad karma to ask for a lower price tag at your venue if you're still negotiating contract?

It's actually in your best interest to pay the venue what they've asked. They have come up with that pricing based on their overhead and what they need to do to maintain business. The last thing you want is for any of that to be in jeopardy by the time your wedding comes around.

-Wendy Kay, designer/planner at Birds of a Feather Events, on March 26, 2020

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Wedding is 5/9! Is it fair/possible to ask venue to hold a future date for now?

For your wedding on May 9th, I think it's not unreasonable to ask them to hold another date. It's so close. And, yet, if somebody else calls for that date, you'll have first right of refusal.

-Mindy Weiss, wedding planner, on March 21, 2020

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My wedding is in Hawaii in mid-April. Should I cancel using force majeure in contract?

I think you'll need to cancel in Hawaii. And, hopefully, the hotels want you to rebook, find a new date...you won't' have to use force majeure, and they'll put your deposit towards the new date.

-Mindy Weiss, wedding planner, on March 21, 2020

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Do I send an announcement about the postponement AND new invites later?

You should send your postponement through the mail or email. If you have the new date, include it in that email. And then mail your invitations.

-Mindy Weiss, wedding planner, on March 21, 2020

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If your wedding is postponed, when is a good time to reschedule?

The best time to reschedule is now! Do not wait! Because just think: Everybody else is trying to get a new date. You will lose dates if you wait.

-Mindy Weiss, wedding planner, on March 21, 2020

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How should brides who are still a few months away be adjusting planning? September bride, here!

For those brides planning weddings in the fall or July and on, continue planning as normal. Let's hope this is all done by May!

-Mindy Weiss, wedding planner, on March 21, 2020

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My planner doesn't agree on postponing the wedding at the end of May. What do I do?

We actually have a backup date for our couple who has an event at the end of May. Our cut-off for a decision is April 1st. Find a backup date!

-Mindy Weiss, wedding planner, on March 21, 2020

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What is the best way to keep guests updated about the status of the wedding events?

If you guys have a website, that is the best way to keep your guests updated. If not, you can send texts and update that way.

-Mindy Weiss, wedding planner, on March 21, 2020

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Etiquette for moving the date of a 4/4/20 bridal shower? Notification via text?

It's perfectly acceptable to send a text to guests that you are changing the date for a bridal shower. People want to know what the new date will be as soon as possible.

-Mindy Weiss, wedding planner, on March 21, 2020

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If we postponed, should we re-invite guests who originally declined?

If you postpone the date, most definitely you should invite guests who declined your last date. They may be available now!

-Mindy Weiss, wedding planner, on March 21, 2020

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If we do postpone, how far in the future should we do it?

So, no one really knows when exactly that safe period is going to be again. But what I'm telling my couples with events in the next eight weeks, is let's look at dates in August and beyond. And, you know what, if September comes, and we have to push it again, we'll push it again.

-Annie Lee, wedding planner, on March 18, 2020

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How do I get my venue to help us out even if our contract says things are not refundable?

OK, so there should be a clause in your contract, and even if it's not there, they should do this, where they move the deposits towards a new date if you are postponing. And, if for whatever reason you have to totally cancel, talk to them about the force majeure and what happens during a natural disaster.

-Annie Lee, wedding planner, on March 18, 2020

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June destination wedding in Italy. How to prepare for the worst from afar?

For a June international wedding, I would definitely say you probably should be looking at a new date. If you need help from a local wedding planner, go on @askplannie, and you can work with someone by the hour so they can move all your people from the old date to the new one.

-Annie Lee, wedding planner, on March 18, 2020

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If my wedding is postponed, shouldn't my payment be delayed too?

Make sure you look through your contracts because a lot of them say that your final payment isn't due for a certain number of days before your wedding. So, if you move your date, then now you have a new payment schedule.

-Chi-Chi Ari, photographer, on March 18, 2020

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We want to keep our date! Should we elope instead and party at a later date?

Yes! Definitely do something special on your original date so you have that memory. Then you can have a larger party when this whole thing clears up!

-Chi-Chi Ari, photographer, on March 18, 2020

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What do I do if my deposits are nonrefundable and my vendors won't cancel/postpone. Do I continue?

Talk to your highest priority vendors first. We're all in this together and try to be as accommodating as possible but safety is the number one priority so do go ahead and postpone your date to keep your guests and family safe.

-Chi-Chi Ari, photographer, on March 18, 2020

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I postponed my wedding—how do I communicate that to my guests?

So if you have made the decision to postpone your wedding to another date, we suggest you let your guests know as soon as possible. Typically, the easiest, quickest way to do that is by sending them all an e-mail.

-Aleah Valley, wedding planner, on March 18, 2020

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Should we resend invites? Our wedding was 5/8 postponed until 7/17?

In this particular instance, because the time frame is so short—unless your designs have changed drastically and the invitations will look really different—think about working with your stationery designer to send off a digital suite so your guests will get the invitations quickly.

-Aleah Valley, wedding planner, on March 18, 2020

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What's a good wedding website blurb to tell your guests you still plan to have your wedding?

You can say something along the lines of, "How excited you are to celebrate with your guests/you can hardly wait to see everyone/you can't wait to give them a big hug, and you'll also keep them notified if anything changes in the next few weeks."

-Aleah Valley, wedding planner, on March 18, 2020

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My wedding will be in mid-September. Should I consider postponing?

This is what I'm telling my brides: Let's keep things the way they are for right now. Contact your venues, just to see what the situation would be with them and any other vendors that are important, and then, wait until June. And if by June, things aren't better, then we move it.

-Laurken Kendall, wedding photographer, on March 16, 2020

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Payment is due on wedding but unsure about moving forward. Help!

Contact your vendor right away, don't wait. I'm assuming your wedding is soon—so, in all likelihood, you very well might be looking at a postponement. So, talk to them, open the lines of communication. That is the best information I can give you.

-Laurken Kendall, wedding photographer, on March 16, 2020

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How do you deal with guilt if you don't postpone and people go but are afraid of getting sick?

1) Make sure you are abiding by the CDC guidelines and the guidelines of your city and state. 2) Make sure you yourself and not guilt-tripping into anyone coming. 3) Recognize that they are adults and you can't be responsible for the decisions they make.

-Laurken Kendall, wedding photographer, on March 16, 2020

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Do I get my deposits back if I cancel?

Check your contracts! Every vendor is different and they are all going to have varying policies. If you can postpone instead of cancel, I encourage that. But I will say that it is likely that many deposits will be non-refundable.

-Jove Meyer, wedding planner, on March 16, 2020

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What's the best way to coordinate with vendors when you postpone?

E-mail is the best way to correspond with vendors when you're postponing your wedding. You can get all of your questions clearly out and they can respond in writing so you have everything you need in front of you. Please be patient as many people are going through turbulent times right now.

-Jove Meyer, wedding planner, on March 16, 2020

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My wedding is in June. Should I be thinking about postponing?

If your wedding is in June or beyond, you should not be postponing at this point, you should continue your planning process. If your wedding is in the next eight weeks, you should absolutely postpone in accordance with the CDC guidelines.

-Jove Meyer, wedding planner, on March 16, 2020

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Do you think venues will be willing to postpone weddings?

I do think that venues are going to start working with couples to help postpone their wedding dates due to the CDC mandate that no events over 50 people can be held for the next two months, so until about May 15th.

-Brooke Keegan, wedding planner, on March 16, 2020

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Will suppliers change the date?

I'm hoping that all the vendors and suppliers out there will be as flexible as they possibly can with helping with these postponements and changing the dates. If not, there are other amazing vendors out there that will be willing to help you. Fingers crossed!

-Brooke Keegan, wedding planner, on March 16, 2020

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Interested in seeing from the venue/vendor point of view, in regards to client communication and notification?

We've reached out to all of our clients that are hosting events in the next three months to give them as much support and guidance as we possibly can. As an industry, we are going to ban together and help you navigate this crazy strange situation. It's nobody's fault, and we're going to be here to support you.

-Brooke Keegan, wedding planner and designer, on March 16, 2020

The current outbreak of coronavirus (COVID-19) has been declared a pandemic by The World Health Organization. As the situation remains fluid, we’ll be sharing tips and stories from industry experts and couples who are experiencing cancellations to give you the most up-to-date advice on how this can impact your wedding.

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