Anal sex, for all the media attention it has gotten in recent years, still feels like one of the last sexual taboos. People love to talk about anal, but often don’t want to admit they’re into anal, regardless of gender.
It really shouldn’t be so off-color to enjoy anal sex. The anal opening is full of nerve-endings—the internal clitoris can actually be reached through the thin rectal wall that separates the anus from the vaginal canal and cervix. It’s pretty much the best, and more people should be out here proudly proclaiming that they are ANAL QUEENS.
If you’re not there yet, that’s OK. To lighten the load of this “heavy” topic, and maybe to help you feel better about your proclivities for anal sex and and anal play, here are 10 women on why they love this sex act.
It definitely hurts to get started, but once you're going, I just love how deep it gets. Being that it's the only way I've ever been able to orgasm (I can't orgasm via vaginal intercourse—so far, anyway) that's why I prefer it. Also, frankly speaking as a sexually submissive woman, I like the power exchange that goes into this particular act as well.
- Sarah, 30
I am a 30 year old kinky queer woman who loves anal. I love anal sex and butt plugs, especially the e-stim ones! I often fantasize about anal stimulation while masturbating too. I love everything about it!
- Barbie*, 30
Anal sex is the ONLY way I have orgasms. I don’t even get off with a vibrator. Having a [penis] in my [butt], that is really, really hard is amazing. I usually come within a few minutes. It feels like my whole body is exploding with fullness and pleasure.
- Jessie, 23
Anal isn’t my favorite thing in the world, but it’s on the list of things I like. I started doing a lot of experimenting with butt plugs with my ex-boyfriend and now I’m having regular anal with the guy I’m seeing now. I like how submissive it feels to get it in the [butt].
- Jennifer, 36
Anal is everything. I have no idea why every person isn’t into it. I like giving it and getting it.
- Melissa, 28
I love anal, but it’s hard to talk about it with new partners. I’m always afraid they’ll judge me or think I’m some dirty slut for being into anal. As if being into anal means you’ve had tons of sex with tons of people—I don’t know. I’m definitely trying to get better and more confident about discussing it, but it still is a weird thing for me.
- Jamie, 32
The rules for anal: Always use lube, always breathe into the penetration, and always communicate with your partner. If you do these things, anal is wonderful. There’s nothing to be afraid of!
- Gerie, 30
I enjoy anal sex because it’s kinky, and it gets me off. I like to be on my side with my partner inside me from behind. I also use my vibrator on my clit for extra stimulation. The orgasms are amazing. Like the best orgasms I have ever had. I can’t believe I went so long without exploring my butthole.
- Suzie*, 50
Anal is kind of like the advanced form of sex, I think. That’s just how I think of it. It’s like the thing you conquer once you’ve done everything else. I like it because feeling that full is overwhelming … but in a good way!
- Mary, 37