It’s high time we start appreciating a woman’s body for the wonder it is. The female body is a complex landscape capable of experiencing all kinds of different orgasms and pleasure.
The vast majority of orgasms are clitorally based. That’s right, the clitoris is forever involved. Even orgasms induced by other erogenous zones, such as the nipples, connect to nerve endings in the clitoris.
For all of the types of orgasms below, don’t just subscribe individually. Blend the different types of stimulation for better, more fulfilling orgasms. When in doubt, always stimulate the glans clitoris—she is the queen of everything.
If you’re having penetrative sex and are wondering why you’re not coming, it’s because most women can’t get off this way. Eighty percent of women require clitoral stimulation (direct or indirect) in order to achieve an orgasm. Two in three women cannot orgasm from vaginal intercourse alone. Needless to say, the clitoris is super important.
The clitoris is is 0.5 to 2cm in length and includes not only the glans (the nub you can see), but also winglike extensions and bulbs that lie below the surface. It’s much larger than you’d imagine. The clitoris is the home-base of female-bodied pleasure. It contains 8,000 nerve endings and is made from the same erectile tissue as the penis.
If you want to have more orgasms, the clit is where you should be directing your attention.
Didn’t think you could stimulate a cervix? Wrong. Well, kind of.
Cervical orgasms are also known as deep vaginal orgasms. The cervix itself doesn’t have many nerve endings, but because the cervix is as far as a penis or toy can reach inside the vagina, we call deep penetrative orgasms cervical orgasms.
The clitoris is still involved in these types of orgasms, as the internal clit is in play when experiencing this type of pleasure.
The nipples (as well as other erogenous zones such as the belly button, inner thighs, and neck), stimulate the pleasure receptors in your body and brain. Are they connected to the clitoris? Yes. When these areas are touched, the clitoris is stimulated indirectly—which can sometimes lead to orgasm.
Different people find different non-genital zones sexy. You may enjoy having your nipples touched, but it isn’t enough to induce orgasm. Don’t hesitate to combine different types of caressing. Blend nipple stimulation with clitoral to create a mind-blowing O.
The G-spot is still contested among experts. Some say it doesn’t exist, some say it is its own pleasure center, and some mark it as part of the clitoris. It is, in fact, a thing. It is the apex of the internal clitoris, an alternative entrance. Not every woman enjoys G-spot stimulation and not every woman can have an orgasm with this kind of stimulation. We cannot stress enough how different all bodies can be.
The G-spot is located just behind the pubic bone. It’s hard to stimulate the G-spot through straightforward penetration, as you need to curve upward to reach it. We suggest a G-spot wand or coital alignment technique.
Little attention is paid to female pleasure during anal penetration. We subscribe to a social narrative that paints a woman as “giving in” to anal sex with a partner. I cringe every time I remember Tinsley Mortimer telling her friends on The Real Housewives how she cried when she had anal sex. What the heck was her ex-husband thinking?!
This is a close-minded way to look at anal sex. Women are absolutely capable of sexual pleasure during anal and even orgasm, if anal sex is done properly (i.e. with preparation and a ton of lube).
Now that we’ve covered some of the “standard” orgasms, let’s talk about a lesser known type of orgasm. Female P-spot orgasms (not to be confused with male prostate orgasms), or urethral orgasms, are based in the opening to the urethra.
While this is relatively rare, some women do enjoy having the second hole downstairs touched. The urethra is about 4cm from the vaginal opening, so the two areas contain connective nerve tissue. Be wary of this type of stimulation, as the transference of bacteria cause UTIs.