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Finding a unity ritual to include in your wedding ceremony can feel like a tall order, especially if you're having a secular ceremony instead of a religious one. Many rituals, like unity candles, have their roots in religious traditions and might not feel like the right fit. But if you and your spouse-to-be love wine or plan on tying the knot at a vineyard, the wine box ritual may be for you.
A wine box ceremony is a non-religious wedding ritual in which a bottle of wine is enclosed in a box so that it can be opened by a couple at a later date. Some couples opt to add an extra layer of meaning by including love letters to each other and sealing them in the box alongside the wine.
Meet the Expert
• Amy Nichols, the owner of Amy Nichols Special Events, is a San Francisco–based wedding planner.
• Nan Craddock is a marketing coordinator for Easton Porter Group, which includes winery Pippin Hill Farm and Vineyards near Charlottesville, Virginia.
Ahead, we talk to wedding planner Amy Nichols and Nan Craddock, a marketing coordinator in hospitality, about the wedding wine box tradition, its history and meaning, and how to incorporate one into your wedding.
The History and Meaning of a Wine Box Ceremony
While the origins of wine box ceremonies are unknown, wine has been a fixture at weddings since the ancient Greeks. Wine box ceremonies have gained popularity in recent years as more couples seek out ways to commemorate their future together. Essentially, it comes down to selecting a favorite or special bottle of wine that you both really enjoy (and that ages well). During the post-wedding reception, you'll seal this bottle of wine in a box, and you can opt to add notes and other keepsakes from your big day. Then, you agree to open it up years later, most commonly in 10 years. A wine box ceremony is a beautiful way to celebrate your love, your love of wine, and create an amazing moment for an anniversary in the future.
How to Have a Wine Box Ceremony
Want to know how to incorporate the tradition into your ceremony? Have the wine and the box on display on a table near the altar, along with anything you wish to include in the box (such as pre-written letters to one another). When the time comes, have your officiant explain the significance of the wine box. Make sure they mention the wine you've chosen and how long you plan to save the wine (or if you're going to open it to help you get through a tough time or on another occasion). Then, the two of you will place the wine and any accompanying items into the box and close the lid.
One tip? Save the hammering for once you're back home. Pausing the ceremony to seal the box could take a while. You could also choose a box with a latch and a lock, which you could more quickly close with a key mid-ceremony. Make sure you have a planner or a member of your wedding party take the box to a safe place so you remember to take it home. Then, when the time comes, pull out your wedding album, open the box, and pour some wine as you reminisce about your wedding day.
If you're looking for a fun twist on the traditional wine box ceremony, Nichols suggests purchasing more than one bottle of your wine that you're saving. "Open one on your wedding day and enjoy a sip during your wedding celebration, and then seal the other in your wine box. Alternatively, if you are big wine lovers, buy 10 bottles or a case, and enjoy a bottle every year on your anniversary and notice how the wine develops and ages with time," Nichols says.