You've been living with your fiancé for the past couple years, and you have already accrued practically everything you need to make your house look like a home. Or so you thought! According to world-renowned event producer and registry expert Jung Lee, there's simply something to be said about registering for things as an almost-married couple, as opposed to combining stuff you both already own.
"A registry is about two people coming together," she says. It's an investment in your relationship. Similar to how you spent ample time picking out and carefully thinking about your wedding bands, you should approach your wedding registry in the exact same fashion. "A lot of couples feel like it's a chore and they just need to get it done as quick as possible," notes Lee.
Instead of focusing so much on including a wide range of price points, from the very affordable to the very high-end, in your registry, she recommends asking for great quality things you can truly cherish and perhaps even pass on to the next generation, keeping for 10, 20, 30 years to come. "We can all agree that we'd prefer to have one special thing rather than a bunch of little things, so have a couple people chip in for something nice." Consider gifts, such as a Thanksgiving table set, serving pieces you can entertain with or monogrammed china, that will help you make your mark as a couple since, after all, that's what it is all about. "It doesn't have to be luxury items, but good quality, classic stuff that's affordable, you've done your due diligence on and will stand the test of time. Don't just go to town with a scanning gun," Lee warns.
One thing every couple should register for, yet likely won't? A beautiful silver picture frame. "There's always going to be one magnificent photo from the wedding you'll want to hang." Another idea is fabulous flatware. Even the people who have everything haven't come around to getting great flatware for themselves, she points out. "Silverware is like shoes, you need to go as high as possible in terms of quality. Eat out of nice china and flatware as often as possible and treat yourselves. It'll not only calm your nerves, but also make you appreciate your meals more." Plus, it's something you selected together as a couple.
Love good wine? Register for an equally as good decanter. Have a list handy and use it as a baseboard, advises Lee. "Think about what you currently have and how you serve things, and be practical with your decisions." If you like to use tiny bowls for snacks when you entertain, why not upgrade yours to those adorable ones you've been lusting after for a year? Really, anything that spruces up your home and makes you feel good about it is worth adding to the registry, she says. "You can get furniture, home goods, antiques, art or whatever it is you either need or could see yourself living with forever."