Married sex gets a bad rep. "Many people believe that your sex life takes a nose dive after you get married because it becomes much easier to take your partner's sexual availability for granted," explains Madeleine Castellanos, M.D., sex therapist and author of Wanting To Want: What Kills Your Sex Life and How to Keep It Alive. "Other needs of the relationship seem to take on more importance and sex can easily get put on the back burner. But the truth is that married people definitely have more frequent sex and also report higher satisfaction in sex." Don't believe us? Here are six expert reasons why married sex actually rocks.
1. You don't have to stress if the relationship will last or not.
"Once the worry about the permanence of your commitment is settled, it no longer has to be associated with your sexual activity," says Castellanos.
2. Foreplay lasts all day long.
"When you're married, a morning make out session followed up a by a sexy text or call can lead to hot sex when you finally get to see each other again at the end of the day," says Emily Morse, Ph.D., sex therapist and host of the podcast Sex With Emily. Not to mention, you "have more opportunity to create experiences for arousal," says Castellanos. "If you know, for example, that you get turned on watching them undress, you can learn to make this an erotic game for the both of you."
3. You get to know each other's bodies as well as you know your own.
"The more experience you have with your partner, the more you come to learn the ins and outs of what turns them on," Castellanos says. "Learning their lovemaking style and how they get aroused means less time wasted on frustration and things that don't work." Plus, says, Morse, "you know each other's bodies, erogenous zones, turn-ons and turn-offs — and if you mess up on the dirty talk you won't feel like a jerk!"
4. You feel safe to experiment.
"You trust each other, so there's less fear about being open your fantasies and deepest desires," says Morse. "You don't have to be nervous or scared because this guy married you." As Castellanos explains it, "once you are more comfortable in front of your partner, you have an increased ability to really let go in sex and give in to your arousal. Some people aren't really able to fully be present in sex until they reach this level of comfort with a partner."
5. The commitment to each other means less stress about STIs.
"Also, when you are finally ready to get pregnant, contraception doesn't have to be a concern either," Castellanos points out.
6. You have more time for sex. Yes, you read that right!
"Married couples often have more opportunity to create time devoted for sex," explains Castellanos. "This is one very practical reason why married people have more sex."