If Our Parents Are Splitting the Cost of the Wedding, Should They Also Split the Rehearsal Dinner?

Updated 05/26/16

Gia Canali

Traditionally, the bride's family pays for the wedding and the groom's pays for the rehearsal dinner the night before. But what happens when both sets of parents are splitting the cost of the wedding? Our experts have a few ideas.

If both sets of parents are splitting the cost of the wedding 50-50, the same should apply to surrounding wedding events, like the rehearsal dinner and the morning-after brunch. If that's the way you decide to split things, both sets of parents should act as hosts at all events, including having their names included with equal billing on the invitations.

You could simply have the parents divide the costs evenly once all is said and done, or you could create a list of wedding costs and designate who will be paying for what, such as the bride's family paying for the invitations and the groom's family covering the alcohol. If you plan to include the rehearsal dinner as part of the divided costs, be sure to include it on the list when you're divvying up expenses. You could also opt to have the groom's parents host the rehearsal dinner, the bride's parents host the morning-after brunch, and both sets of parents host the wedding together.

If the event isn't being split evenly (for example, if the bride's family is covering the venue rental and catering, with the groom's family paying for the flowers), the couple making the smaller contribution may want to offer to cover the costs of the rehearsal dinner.

Another option would be for the bride and groom to pay for the rehearsal dinner themselves, serving as hosts for this welcome event. It can be as formal or as relaxed as you'd like, but it's a nice way to show your appreciation for the costs your parents are undergoing.

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