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Who Gets Invited to the Bridal Shower?

Everything you need to know about making the bridal shower guest list

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You've picked a bridal shower date, thoughtfully chosen a theme, added dozens of pins to your Pinterest board, and now it's time to solidify the guest list and send invitations. Wondering just who to invite to a bridal shower? The short answer is:

  1. The bridal party
  2. Close family members
  3. Close friends

But there's more to it than that. Ahead, find our best tips for figuring out who should be invited to a bridal shower.

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Don't Invite Anyone Who Isn't Invited to the Wedding

This may seem obvious, but inviting people who aren't invited to the wedding is inappropriate. It will likely offend them and it will look like you're pandering for gifts. The only exception is an office bridal shower, where coworkers want to impart well wishes to the bride.

Keep It Intimate

When it comes to inviting friends, it may be hard to narrow down your list, but the shower really is for your nearest and dearest. Invite your bridal party, of course, and close family and friends. Do not feel obligated to invite significant others or friends of your sisters unless you truly have a close relationship with them. A shower should be a healthy mix of family and friends who know you best. After all, how else will they be able to win all those fun shower games?

The Host Ultimately Decides the Number of Guests

Ultimately, it's up to the host or hostess to decide how many guests he or she feels comfortable having in attendance. Once a shower date is set, the hostess or host and bride should discuss the number of guests that can fit. Once a shower date is set, the host or hostess and the bride should sit down to discuss the number of guests he or she feels comfortable having. If the bride's list exceeds that number, consider having more than one shower (perhaps one for friends and one for family) But the host or hostess should not be asked to go over the guest count.

It's Perfectly Fine to Have Multiple Bridal Showers

Sometimes, more than one person wants to throw you a shower—and generally speaking, that's totally okay. But be sure to make each guest list unique based on the host or hostess. If you're having a shower hosted by bridesmaids, consider keeping that list to friends only, while the shower hosted by your aunts can include extended family and your mom's close friends. If your in-laws are hosting a shower, tip the balance towards their side, and keep your list to immediate family.

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