Who Gets Invited to Your Bridal Shower?

Everything you need to know about making the bridal shower guest list

Updated 08/16/19

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You've picked a bridal shower date, thoughtfully chosen a theme, added dozens of pins to Pinterest board, and it's time to solidify the guest list and send invitation! Wondering just who to invite to a bridal shower? The short answer is your bridal party, close family members and close friends — but there's more to it than that. Here's everything you need to consider when figuring out who should be invited to a bridal shower.

1. Don't Invite Anyone Who Isn't Invited to the Wedding

This may seem obvious, but inviting people who aren't invited to the wedding in inappropriate. It will likely offend them and will it look like you're pandering for gifts. The only exception is an office bridal shower, where coworkers want to impart well wishes on the bride.

2. Keep It Intimate

When it comes to inviting friends, it may be hard to narrow down your list, but the shower really is for your nearest and dearest. Invite your bridal party, of course, and close family and friends. Do not feel obligated to invite the groomsmen's significant others or friends of your sister's unless you truly have a close relationship with them. A shower should be a healthy mix of family and the friends who know you best. After all, how else will they be able to win all those fun shower games?

3. The Bridal Shower Host/Hostess Ultimately Decides the Number of Guests

Ultimately, it's up to the host or hostess to decide how many guests he or she feels comfortable having in attendance. After all, they are footing the bill! Once a shower date is set, the hostess and bride should discuss the number of guests that can fit. Once a shower date is set, the hostess and bride should sit down to discuss the number of guests the host feels comfortable have. If the bride's list exceeds that number, consider having more than one shower — perhaps one for friends and one for family (more on that in the next point!).

But the host should not be asked to go over the guest count.

4. It's Perfectly Fine to Have Multiple Bridal Showers

Sometimes, more than one person wants to throw you a shower — and generally speaking, that's totally okay! But be sure to make each guest list unique based on the host. If you're having a shower hosted by bridesmaids, consider keeping that list to friends-only, while the shower hosted by your aunts can include extended family and your mom's close friends. If your in-laws are hosting a shower, tip the balance towards their side, and keep your list to immediate family.

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