Which Lucky Guests Should Score a Plus-One?

Here's the real deal on those plus-one invites

Updated 04/12/17

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Your guest list is undoubtedly one of the more challenging wedding-planning tasks to tackle. When you're dealing with a budget, guest requests from both sides of your families, and the "Who gets a date?" question, it can be a little (or a lot) overwhelming. Have no fear—we've got your back. Check out our expert plus-one tips to help you determine who will be a lucky guest at your big day!

Married Couples

This is a no-brainer. If your guest is married, his or her spouse most definitely should be invited to your wedding as well. Second-guessing doing so? Consider this: Once you're married, how would you feel if your love got invited to a wedding without you? Not very good, right? There, that was easy!

Those in Relationships

Anyone you are inviting who has been in a long-term relationship anywhere from six months to one year or longer really should be invited with a date. However, there are exceptions to every rule. If you're not that close with the invited guest, have never met the significant other, or are sticking to the "living together or married" rule that some couples go by, then it is ultimately up to you.

For newer-together couples, it's a slippery slope. Some experts would argue that anyone in an established relationship should be extended the plus-one courtesy, while others say that depending on your relationship with the individual, it's all right to have that guest come stag. For couples you know of who may be in a gray area, it also can't hurt to ask them if they'd like to be invited solo or together.

Whatever you decide, a good general rule of thumb is to put yourself in someone else's shoes and proceed how you would want to be treated.

Singles Who Are Ready to Mingle

Whether you're of the "more the merrier" mindset or think singles should get only a single seat, you can't go too wrong here. While most single people would love to be afforded the option to decide for themselves, it's your guest list and your budget. The most important thing here is to be consistent. It wouldn't really be fair to invite half your single friends/family with dates and half without, would it? Whatever you do, make a decision and stick to it.

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