There's something pretty exciting about heading to work after you've gotten engaged. Whether you've posted pictures on social media or are waiting for your ring to sparkle in the fluorescent light of your office, sharing the big news with people you see almost every day is definitely a big deal! The next step? Deciding which (if any) of your coworkers will be getting an invitation to your wedding. Thankfully, our experts have a few tips for deciding if any of your colleagues will be there to celebrate with you on your big day.
When you're deciding whether or not to invite your coworkers to your wedding, there are a few key details to keep in mind.
First, how formal or traditional is your office? Especially at large law firms or investment banks, inviting your boss (and maybe the CEO or president) is pretty much the norm. Ask around and chat with other employees who have gotten married while working for the company to see what chose to do, and follow suit. Sure, this might mean adding a few couples to the guest list, but if it's an expected practice in your workplace, you may want to stick to tradition.
Second, how big is your office? If you're one of dozens of employees, you can easily invite your closest office friends without the expectation that you'll invite everyone. However, in a smaller office, inviting just one or two people could be hard to get away with (unless you're really close and your coworkers understand that you're great friends outside of work, too). If you have room and you're all really close, consider inviting everyone. Otherwise, be as tactful and subtle as possible when inviting a coworker to your wedding, or consider skipping the work friends entirely.
Third, how close are you? If you're considering inviting a coworker to your wedding, don't just pick the one you're closest with compared to everyone else you work with. Consider how close you are compared to your non-work friends. Do you frequently go out for lunch or grab drinks after work? Do you ever see one another on weekends? Have you met one another's significant others? If your friendship exists beyond the walls of your office, add them to the list! But if your office friendship doesn't translate to your real life, you may want to save those seats for other friends or family members, instead.