Choosing who you'll include in your wedding guest list is a challenge, especially when it comes to deciding between relatives. There's always a chance someone will end up feeling slighted, and you know your grandma will make the argument that your third cousin twice removed should really be invited "because she's family!" When it comes to deciding which family members do (and don't) make the cut, our experts have a few tips that may make it a little bit easier.
While it's impossible to know whether not being invited to your wedding will hurt someone's feelings, being consistent with where you draw the line is absolutely key. Are you inviting most of your aunts and uncles? Unless you have a really good reason not to include someone, you really should just invite them all. On the fence about cousins? It's tempting to play favorites, but if you have the space (and the budget), the whole gang should be invited. The same goes for relatives' kids: You may decide that your aunts and uncles can bring their kids, but your second cousins can't—and you should stick to it no matter what.
So how do you decide where to draw the line? Start with those most closely related to you, then work your way out. As you get further from the heart of your family tree, the number of people in each category will probably be significantly larger (i.e. you may have two or three aunts and uncles on each side, plus their spouses, but once you get to second cousins and their kids, there could be over a dozen people to consider!). This means you'll have to consider both your relationship with people and your venue's capacity, not to mention your budget. It's great to be able to consider the whole family, but if your choice is to invite all 20 of your second cousins just to include one you love (and to risk being shut down by the fire marshall) or to come in under-capacity at your venue, the latter is always the better option.