While guests aren't required to bring a gift to every pre-wedding celebration, some do (even if it's just a bottle of wine to the engagement party and a more substantial gift for the wedding). And that kind of generosity deserves a genuine thank-you — but do you have to write a thank you note for every gift? Here's what our experts have to say.
Ideally, you're on top of your note-writing and (since these events were most likely spaced out over a matter of months) you already sent a note for that engagement party gift long before the wedding gift arrived. After all, etiquette states that notes for pre-wedding gifts should be sent within two to three weeks of receipt, and that you should try to write thank you notes for wedding gifts received in advance of the big day before you've said your vows. So, if you've been prompt and organized, you should be sending a note to thank the giver for each gift you've received.
But, let's say you had a few pre-wedding celebrations in quick succession right before your wedding day, or you weren't as with it as you'd hoped to be when it comes to writing thank you notes. If you've already gotten all of the gifts they've sent, send the guest in question a single note thanking them for their generosity and acknowledging every gift they gave you. Write about how excited you are to open that bottle of wine and serve it in the new wine glasses they sent you, or how you can't wait to invite them over for dinner cooked in the Dutch oven they purchased (and to decorate the table with that gorgeous vase!). The same goes for a guest who bought a few different items off your registry as a wedding gift — mention each gift by name so they know everything made it to you!