One of the most exciting parts about getting engaged is sharing the news with every single person you know. After you and your new fiancé have properly celebrated this milestone and basked in all the excitement, you’ll send pictures, make (so many) FaceTime calls, and post ring selfies on your Instagram so the people in your life can celebrate with you. You might even be eager to sit down and start planning by picking your wedding date, venue, color scheme, and dress, all within the first week of getting engaged. But one decision you should take a minute to make? Deciding on your bridesmaids and maid of honor.
Even if you’re eager to tell a handful of your closest pals that they are part of your wedding party, you don’t want to rush handing them an invitation, especially until you know more details about your big day and you’ve had time to think it through. Ahead, four things you should do before selecting your wedding squad.
Wait Until You Know Your Wedding Date
Before popping the question to your bridesmaids-to-be, first, wait until you know your wedding date. Knowing your wedding date will let your bridesmaids have a better idea about whether or not they can commit to being your bridesmaid. The date might come at a bad time for them personally, with another wedding commitment or a major life change, like a baby or move, that might keep them from saying "I do" to being a bridesmaid.
Take a Few Weeks to Think About It
Picking your bridesmaids should be a decision that comes with a lot of thought. If your wedding is going to happen a year or two after your engagement, take the time to really think about the people in your life and who you want there for you throughout the entire wedding adventure. If you’re deciding between 10 and 15 people, start to think about the people whom you know will be a friend of yours for life and will be able to help you with your wedding details over the next couple months.
Know as Many Wedding Details as You Can
Before picking your wedding crew, try to figure out the kind of bridal shower and bachelorette party you want. Details like that might determine how big your bridal party should be, and it will allow you to ask your bridesmaids with enough information, so they will feel good about taking on this role and get excited about your wedding.
Be Engaged for at Least 60 Days
To prevent rushing this decision, give yourself a 60-day grace period where you don’t pop the bridesmaid question to any of your friends. During that time, start planning out how many bridesmaids you actually want, and think about things like what kinds of gifts you want to give them when the time comes to ask them to be your bridesmaid.