You've heard the old saying, "When you know, you know," but does that always apply when it come to love? Here, real brides share the stories of moment they knew they had finally found the one.
Other men were lame in comparison.
Alina Adams knew she liked her boyfriend but wasn't sure if the relationship had legs until the pair double dated. The New York writer recalls, "That night I found myself watching my friend's boyfriend and thinking how annoying and lame he was, and how everyone I'd dated in the past was exactly like him." Then she looked at Dan and thought, "He is so, so much better." Sixteen years and three children later that is still how she feels!
He "got" you.
For Nikki McKenna, feeling "incredibly at home" with the cute fellow student she met in college was very important. In a quirk of fate: Each hailed from Santa Rosa, California, five hours away from their 's campus. "I knew Ed would be my husband the night he told me his dad's way of cooking was to microwave bologna and put it in a sandwich. I laughed hysterically," Nikki says. Hearing about a family that sounded so much like her own felt way more delicious than the bologna! Married 10 years, the pair has two children, with a third on the way.
Life radically changed the moment your eyes locked.
New Yorker Stephanie Adams-Nicolai says, "I looked into Charles' eyes and it was like a planetary, cosmic explosion which had us racing together in time...dating, marrying, making a family together, growing old together..." Five years later, the glorious future is still unfolding.
Experiences are better when he's part of them.
One morning, a month into a promising new relationship, Chelsey White woke up, gazed at the still-slumbering Joe and felt "an overwhelming warmth in my heart. I was lightheaded." Later that day Chelsea called her best friend and asked, "How do you know when you're in love?" The answer: "When you know everything you do would be 1000 percent better if he was there too." Chelsey says, "Five years later that feeling has matured and evolved but is essentially the same. I will never forget those two moments." The soul mates recently made it official, marrying this August.
Sherry Amatenstein, LCSW is a New York City-based marriage therapist and author.