After you tell your closest friends and family in person or by phone, you're next engagement announcement is likely to the world at-large online. But what do your friends really think of what you're most likely to post? We asked a few readers to weigh in on the most common wedding statuses.
"After seven years, he finally proposed."
Anyone who's been together for more than a hot second — or, OK, a year or two — might be tempted to proclaim a proposal with a post that shows you've waited for what felt like forever. But it turns out, whether you're right or not about just how long it took your partner to pop the question, you're likely making your friends uncomfortable and confused. Says Liz, "While I understand you're probably just excited, you don't sound excited — you sound frustrated. I don't know whether to congratulate you or ask why you waited around for so long." Adds Anne, "Every time I see a proposal that mentions how long it took the man, I think the woman just comes off as bitter."
"Look at how amazing my ring is!"
You're probably not going to use those exact words. But when you write out a status whose star is your ring — whether in the words you use or by posting a picture not of you as a couple but of your ring alone — your social media friends may think you're focusing on the wrong thing. "I have a love-hate relationship with close-up shots of your engagement ring," admits Rachel. "On the one hand, of course I want to see it. But on the other, if it's the only shot you post in your engagement announcement, I can't help but wonder if you care more about the ring than your new fiancé."
"He put a ring on it!"
A status with the words, "put a ring on it," give a bod to Beyoncé's hit song. And who doesn't like Queen Bey? But it turns out your social media friends no longer like this turn of phrase. "It's beyond annoying," says Katie. "Can we please move on to something more original?" Adds Leslie, "If I could go back in time and keep Beyoncé from writing that song, just so that I could prevent the onslaught of these statuses, I would do it."
__"Bob just made me the happiest woman in the world." __
This seems to be the most-winning, most-common status update, because your social media friends can't seem to get enough of the happiness it portrays. Yes, they admit, it smacks of bragging. But there's just enough sincerity that they can still stand it. "You're probably not the happiest woman in the world," says Bethany, "but it's really fun to read that you're feeling like it. This makes me so very happy for you." And sums up Tina, "At least you're focused on your love."