So, no doubt your social feeds are full of engagement announcements. How does that make you feel? Is there a little twinge in your heart because you are wishing that those announcements were about you? Here are a few scenarios when you should stay — or stray away from — the engagement topic.
1. You've already had the conversation, are on the same page about wanting to get married, but he hasn't pulled the trigger yet.
Stray. Patience is a virtue ladies, and unfortunately in this situation you can't ask yourself. If you've already had the convo, having it a hundred more times won't make things better, it will actually make things worse.
My husband always told me that men just need a little more time with everything. They need time to plan, think about things, and think about things again. Odds are, they already have something in the works and are nervous as hell about it. So you getting frustrated and questioning them about it all the time won't calm their nerves, it will do the exact opposite.
2. You're afraid to bring up the conversation because every time you do bring up the word 'marriage' he shutters and changes the subject.
Stay. Every relationship is different. Some people get engaged after a couple weeks, some after many years. It's whatever is right for you. But if you've been in it a while and think this person is truly the one, having an honest conversation about what may be holding him back may be beneficial to your relationship.
The only way to solve any issues in a relationship is to communicate about them openly. Are there things he thinks you need to work on? Jealousy issues, trust issues, etc.? Is it because of commitment issues of his own? Ironing out and working on these things now is crucial before you even think of marriage. Working on your selves independently may help for a smoother path toward the altar.
3. You've expressed your desire, but he says he doesn't believe in marriage.
Stay. Lots of people have the mindset that a piece of paper shouldn't be needed in order to solidify a relationship. Now if both of you have this mentality, well then great! But if you know your partner feels this way, but you feel the opposite, you really need to think long and hard about how much marriage means to you. Is it worth losing him? Or if he never does ask, will it only create up pent up resentment toward him?
Once again, having an open dialogue about this situation is very important. As adults, you have to come to a conclusion about what will make both of you happiest. Ignoring his feelings about not wanting to get married now, may lead to even more pain down the road. It's best to face this issue head on.
In the end, marriage is not something to enter into lightly. It's not about the bling, or the cute hashtags. So while this season may be bring up constant reminders about what isn't happening to you, don't let that deter you from being grateful for all that you have right now. And after all, good things come to those who wait!
Raquel Kelley is an E! Fashion Police Producer & Wedding Blogger living in Los Angeles. While going through the wedding process herself, she felt it was only fair to share with other brides what really happens on the road to the altar. She launched her blog I Guess I Do as an inspirational, yet humorous and realistic take on the world of weddings. It may not be roses, but it will always be true. It's the "Stories Behind The Pretty Pictures."