My Husband Lost his Wedding Band! What Should We Do?

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Maybe he was helping out with the dishes or took it off at the gym—either way, accidents happen, and now your husband is without a wedding band. Take a deep breath (and let him out of the doghouse)—we are here to help!

First of all, here's what he shouldn't do: Panic. Innocent accidents happen, and they should be forgivable. ("Love is patient, love is kind... it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs..." Remember? Deep breath!) Unfortunately, it's common for men to lose their rings—it's neither a character flaw nor an omen. Since guys tend to prefer a looser fit to begin with (not inherently knowing how snug a ring should feel), they're more accident-prone when their hands get wet or cold. Second—assuming it's not stolen or sunken treasure—he should say a few prayers to St. Anthony and search high and low.

Get Your Insurance Company On The Phone

After determining it's gone for good, he should call your insurance company and start the (relatively painless) paperwork. Don't feel too bad if he didn't insure it; most men don't. Should that be the case, buy a new one together, and be realistic about the expense. Did he take his ring off every day for work and before bed? Did he fidget with it incessantly? Then don't spend a lot. One high-end jeweler we spoke to agreed that a sense of humor is key, no matter what your budget is—"One groom lost his twice, so his bride presented the third with a string tied around it so he could hook it to his shirt button at all times. Kind of like how toddlers wear mittens."

If you spend a pretty penny (upwards of $1,000) on the sequel, call an insurance agent and get a quote. In the event of another loss, a top-notch company will pay up to 150 percent of the amount for which it was insured, and if they're being difficult, a reputed jeweler will often go to bat for their clients to get a fair deal.

Go Ring Shopping

If comedy isn't in the cards, then make a romantic day of it—pick out the new ring together (most sentimentalists choose exact replicas down to the engraving) and have a mini-celebration a la your wedding. Most importantly, take the proper precautions so it won't happen again: Get a proper fit. Designate one location for both your rings when you're not wearing them, like a monogrammed ring dish or a personal safe. Next time you travel, leave your rings at home.

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