What to Do If Wedding Planning Is Stressing You Out

It's probably time to relax, reset, and reprioritize

Updated 04/10/17

Photo by Jasmine Lee Photography

Weddings are all about love, but the wedding planning part? Well, that’s more about decisions and logistics and details...definitely not romantic! Has the process of planning gotten you and your fiancé down? Here are a few ways to turn it around and get you excited about the big day again.

The first thing to do when wedding planning seems to be taking over your life is to take a break. Hit pause, put your binder and magazines away, and agree not to talk about your wedding for a full 24 hours. Your love and your marriage? By all means, dream away! But forget about the details and the to-do lists. Go out to your favorite restaurant, take a walk or go for a hike, head to the movies, or open a bottle of wine in the kitchen and break open that new cookbook you just picked up. Find something fun that you can do together, and make the most of your time.

If you’re feeling the stress of the wedding, take some time to talk about why it’s stressful. Maybe you feel like you’ve got different priorities, or you’re facing family drama that you weren’t expecting. Knowing that you’re there to support and help one another will remind you of why you fell in love in the first place, and practicing your conversational and emotional skills now will set you up for even more success in the future.

Does it seem like the to-do list just won’t end? See if there are things you can delegate to take the pressure off the two of you. Maybe your wedding planner would be happy to handle your room block, or your future mother-in-law is incredibly crafty and could help assemble invitations. Instead of trying to do it all, accept offers for help. Make those moments fun, too! Invite your girlfriends over to assemble welcome bags, or bring the best man with you to choose the beers you’ll be serving at the reception.

Yes, the two of you are the ones getting married, but you’re surrounded by people who love you and who are there to help support your love and your marriage. By building a strong community around you, you’ll free up the space and time to focus more on your love—and that’s what it’s all about.

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