How Much Is Too Much to Ask of Your Bridal Party When Wedding Planning?

You need help but don't want to overwhelm your 'maids

Updated 05/30/17

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No one aspires to be a bridezilla when wedding planning, but sometimes it happens. With the stress of a long to-do list, budget constraints, and a timeline that's ticking by way faster than you thought days and weeks could go, it's easy to get overwhelmed. That's where your bridal party comes in. Being able to delegate to your 'maids can give you some peace of mind and help you get a few things done. But what's too much to ask of your bridal party during the wedding-planning process? Our experts weigh in.

Having a great group of bridesmaids to support you as you're planning your wedding is an incredible asset, but be wary of taking advantage of their friendship or going beyond the boundaries of bridesmaid duties. The best rule of thumb? Don't ask your bridsmaids to do anything you aren't willing to pitch in and help out with yourself. If it's better left to the pros, do just that!

In fact, aside from things like having their own dresses fitted, if you're asking your 'maids to help with anything, from stuffing envelopes to assembling welcome bags, you should be right there with them. Yes, they're your bridesmaids, but it is your wedding, and they're there to help you, not to follow orders from a bridal drill sergeant.

It's also important to be conscious of their money and budget. Don't ask your bridesmaids to pay for anything beyond the scope of their own duties (things like their dress and expenses for your shower or bachelorette party) without paying them back. A 'maid shouldn't be the one writing a check for any wedding-related expenses if she's not getting a check for the same amount from you. When you're making plans for your bridal shower and bachelorette party, you should be aware of how much you're asking each woman to spend. Sure, you might want to spend a week in Tulum, but if none of your bridesmaids can afford the expense, pick a different destination where everyone will be able to join you (without that awkward money convo).

Last, never ask your bridal party to do your dirty work. From fighting with your partner to firing a vendor, you should be the one handling these tough situations, not a bridesmaid who is serving as your representative. You may want to talk to your 'maids to vent or get advice, but when it comes to the hard parts of planning a wedding, they're there for support, not to take care of it for you.

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