What Getting Married While Pregnant Is Really Like

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PHOTO BY ESTHER S YI

The experience of walking down the aisle while pregnant isn’t exactly universal. Not all pregnant women feel the same way about it. So what is it really like? Well, that depends on a lot of factors, like how far you are along, how many people you tell, and how much you’ve prepared.

Here’s what it’s like walking down the aisle when you’re pregnant.

Our Little Secret—Or Let’s Be Honest?

One of the most difficult things is that, unless you’re really early on, you probably are going to have to make a decision whether or not to tell people. And one thing that may be surprising is that, even if people do know, they may prefer to pretend that it’s not happening. Even if the physical signs are obvious (or the pregnancy is common knowledge) some people may find it easier to ignore it completely. That can be a really frustrating experience for a bride, especially if you know that there’s nothing to be embarrassed about.

Be Prepared for Opinions

Of course, if the pregnancy is obvious or you’ve chosen to tell people, there will almost always be a couple of people with a lot to say about it. Whether it’s a comment about the dress or open (often religiously based) disapproval, some people still have issues with a pregnant bride. Even though most people have sex well before marriage these days, pregnancy is a more pronounced sign of that, so some people can find it provocative.

If you’re worried about this, try not to be. Yes, it can be uncomfortable, but it’s a sign of their close-mindedness rather than a commentary on your life decisions.

But Don’t Forget the Practicalities

Weddings can be a whirlwind at the best of times, but when your pregnant you need to make extra preparations. It may seem like you don’t need another thing to plan for when planning a wedding is already stressful enough. But walking down the aisle when pregnant means thinking ahead, especially at later stages in the pregnancy. But it’s worth it because you can still have an amazing celebration and a day that means the world to you and your partner. You just have to recognize your needs and take care of them.

There’s a lot to consider if you decide to get married while pregnant, but the truth is, it’s all just details. If you and your partner are happy, then that’s all that matters. You should never feel uncomfortable or awkward (even if your Great Aunt Helen can’t keep her mouth shut). As long as you make sure you prepare for any of your needs on the day, then getting married while pregnant is just like getting married every other time—a day about you, your partner, and your future.

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