After you've packed a bag of bridesmaid essentials, including everything from a bottle of Advil to a pair of flip flops to change into, be sure to gloss over the items you're bringing with you and make sure you leave out these nine things. That way, you'll find yourself being a star member of Team Bride — and not an extra source of last-minute wedding stress.
1. Selfie Stick
While this could be a great companion on the bachelorette party, bringing this to a wedding could be a total distraction and even an accidental weapon. Leave it at home and stick to the old and golden way of taking a selfie — with both hands.
2. A Filled-Up Flask
3. iPad or Tablet
Think you'll have downtime to read a book on your tablet, watch a show, or play a game before it's time to walk down the aisle? Chances are you'll be running around getting your hair and makeup done or assisting the bride with last-minute needs. So leave your personal devices at home.
4. Remember That One Time...
Stories of the bride's wild Spring Break to Cancun five years ago or how she used to be in love with "whatever his name is" should be left behind or spoken only once at the bachelorette party. The wedding day is prime time to make her feel confident and stress-free — not embarrassed!
5. A List of Questions
Unsure of how the day is going to flow or what is going to happen when? Delete the 20 questions you jotted down in the note app on your phone and ask the maid of honor before you arrive at the wedding — or while you're there on the day of. Try to avoid asking the bride...anything!
6. A Negative Attitude
Even if you're exhausted from waking up too early or have a terrible headache from all the shrieking and talking from the morning of the wedding, don't let the bride or the bridal party latch on to any negative energy.
7. A Back-Up Dress
Think once the ceremony is over you can take off that polyester bridesmaid dress that is one size too big on you? Wrong! You'll need to wear that dress until the party is over — so leave your change of clothes in the car or in your hotel room.
8. An Uninvited Plus-One
If the bride didn't tell you beforehand that you could bring a plus-one with you, then you should assume you're going solo to the wedding. It's not the best idea to bring along an uninvited guest to the wedding and assume that you'll just pull up a chair for him at your table during the reception.
9. Over-the-top accessories
It might sound like a good idea to over accessorize the bridesmaid dress you've been asked to wear. But before you show up at the wedding with a bag of very gaudy accessories, ask the bride beforehand if it's okay to wear one or two pieces with your dress.
Jen Glantz is a "Professional Bridesmaid" and the founder of Bridesmaid for Hire. She's the author of All My Friends Are Engaged and frequently wears old bridesmaid dresses to the grocery store and on first dates.