Whether you're planning your own wedding or you've hired a professional wedding planner to handle the details, you'll have a schedule of deadlines for things you have to accomplish before your wedding day. The vast majority of things should and can be done more than 60 days prior to your wedding date — and that's when you should do them so you take the pressure off yourself in the final weeks.
You can make sure you have all the dresses, rings, favors, welcome bags, and packing lists all ready to go. And because those are the fun things, that's what most brides and grooms tackle first. It's the tougher tasks that get put off. What are the most common tasks that the vast majority of couples miss deadlines on? Writing their vows, doing their place card charts, making their music playlists, and choosing their flowers. What couples don't realize is that deadlines exist for a reason. Especially those for making your final vendor payments. Miss those deadlines and you might find yourself without a cake or DJ on your wedding day. Here, five reasons why you shouldn't ignore your wedding-homework deadlines:
1. Putting off 'til tomorrow anything that can be planned for your wedding today will cause you to feel all stressed out during the weeks leading up to your wedding.
2. Your wedding contracts give you deadlines for submitting headcounts, playlists, etc. — if you miss the deadlines, you are in breach of contract. That means the vendor isn't obligated to provide the services as contracted anymore. You can end up with late fees, or losing your vendors all together.
3. Assuming that your wedding planner can drop everything else to triage your wedding when you're turning things in four and six weeks late (after he or she has been reminding you for months) is a bad way to do business. If you hired a good planner, he/she has weddings almost every week — sometimes more than one.
4. A well-rested bride can handle any drama or stress that comes her way, but if you're behind deadline and stay up all night writing vows the night before your wedding, it's more than likely that the slightest mishap will drive you to tears, destroying that beautiful makeup job before your wedding photos.
5. Stress and procrastination will cause you and your fiancé to fight in the weeks leading up to your wedding. That's not the best way to enter a new marriage, with one of you feeling overwhelmed by the workload. If you're going to disagree over how much to spend on flowers, do it a few months ahead of time so you're both over it by the wedding day.
Owner of Weddings in Vieques, a destination-wedding planning company off the coast of Puerto Rico, Sandy Malone has helped countless couples plan their big day since 2007.