Every Piece of Stationery You'll Need for Your Wedding

From escort cards to programs, we're breaking down all of the pieces of your bridal-paper essentials.

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Before you order your stationery, it's always a smart idea to put together a list of all the things you'll need to print for your wedding. This will help you and your spouse-to-be stay on budget and figure out which pieces are essential and which ones you may not need.

For some guidance, we consulted stationery expert Katie Fischer Cohen to assist in putting together a checklist—a guide to all of the various paper elements you might need for your big day. Keep in mind, though, that this list is not meant to be all-inclusive—a vast majority of these elements are optional, can be done as a DIY project and personalized, or can be sent electronically (besides the wedding invitation itself—we still think it's important to send guests a printed invitation).

Meet the Expert

Katie Fischer Cohen is the founder of Katie Fischer Design which specializes in high-end custom wedding invitations and day-of stationery.

Once you've sorted through the list, if you're having trouble finding inspiration for your invitations, Cohen has this advice: "It's okay to browse Instagram and Pinterest for ideas, but at a certain point, you have to get off of all that stuff. Ask yourself: who are we and what's important to us? Don't let the of-the-moment trends lead you away from your true aesthetic."

Ahead, see our checklist of the different stationery pieces you'll need for your big day.

Before the Wedding

Engagement party invitation

For a formal engagement party, invites should be sent two to three months in advance and, for a more formal affair, six to eight weeks is fine. They should include the location, date, time, and any required dress code.

Save-the-date card

Save the dates aren't mandatory but, if you do choose to send one, it should be sent six to eight months in advance. It should mention the date, the city and state of your wedding, your wedding website URL, and you should write "formal invitation to follow." Destination wedding save the dates can be sent up to a year in advance. "This will result in a higher acceptance rate and it's a courtesy that allows your guests enough time to plan and book their travel," Cohen says. She adds: "Formal save the dates should have your full names, while casual save the dates can just have your first names (as long as everyone will know who you are without last names)."

Bridal shower invitation

Traditionally, the bridal party hosts the bridal shower, therefore, they should be sending the invites out. Timing is typically two to three months in advance and the invite should include location, time, date, and whether or not there's a theme. Where the couple is registered is also helpful.

Bridal shower thank-you cards

Cohen suggests writing thank you notes right away and sending them two weeks—the latest—after receiving your gift. "Ask a bridesmaid to take notes as you open your gifts so your thank you notes aren’t relegated to a generalized 'Thank you for the gift,'" Cohen says.

A handwritten note is always more thoughtful and appreciated than an email. 

Bachelor/bachelorette party invitation

If it's a small-ish gathering, you can organize everything over email and text message. If it's a larger group, invitations should be sent out two to three months in advance. "Be sure to include all details and what's expected of the guests," Cohen says.

Rehearsal dinner invitation

The family hosting the rehearsal dinner may want to handle the invitations themselves, otherwise the couple may want the invite to match and be included in the main wedding invitation suite. In this case, it should include the name of the family that's hosting, location information, and RSVP cards or an RSVP line.

Welcome dinner invitation

"If it's a more formal event that someone else is hosting, you can create a separate invitation card for this event," Cohen suggests. It can also be sent out with the invitation suite, included in the "weekend events" card. Be sure to properly credit the host and mention any attire expectations.

The Wedding Invitation

Outer envelope

If you're going for a traditional invitation suite, it should always include an inner and outer envelope. The outer one should include the recipient's address on the front and postage stamps on the upper right-hand corner. "Be sure to double-check postage amounts before you mail them and request hand cancelling at the post office," Cohen recommends.

Inner envelope

The inner envelope should include the title and last name of the specific people invited. "While the inner envelope is not mandatory for less traditional suites, you may want to consider it if you want your guests to receive a pristine envelope (expect wear and tear to the outer envelope) or if you have a special envelope liner (the liner goes on the inner unsealed envelope, so there's no tearing it open)," Cohen says.

Belly band

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Photo by Kyle John

This is an optional add-on and can be made of paper, fabric, or ribbon. It wraps around the invitation suite to hold it all together.

Invitation card

The invitation card should be the largest and most substantial card in the invitation suite, Cohen says. The first line should include who's hosting the wedding, who's getting married, the date, time, name of the venue, and the city and state. "If your reception is happening at the same place, include something like 'dinner and dancing to follow' and also include the attire," Cohen says.

Reception card (if held at a different location than the ceremony)

Your reception card should include the name of the venue and address for the reception. It can also include the time if it's not being held immediately after the ceremony.

Directions/map card

Cohen notes that modern day wedding websites (and Google Maps) have replaced directions and map cards but it can act as a fun and functional add-on, especially if an event is at a venue that's hard to find.

Response card and self-addressed stamped envelope

Response Card

Response cards are a way to collect your RSVPs. It should include a sentence with a "reply by" date at the top or bottom of the card. Traditional reply cards typically leave the rest blank while modern ones include a fill-in-the-blank for guests to write in their names. Include check boxes for "accepts with pleasure" and "declines with regret." While collecting RSVPs online are becoming a popular option, Cohen still suggests sending a response card telling guests to RSVP online.

"R.S.V.P. are the initials for the French words 'Respondez, s'il vous plait' which translates to 'Please respond,'" Cohen says. "So, if using 'R.S.V.P.' on your reply card, it should not be preceded by the word please."

Hotel accommodations card

"If you do not have a wedding website and people will be traveling to your wedding, you should include an accommodations card with recommended hotels in the area," Cohen says. Make sure to include all relevant booking info and codes.

At the Wedding

Welcome basket tag

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Jodi Miller Photography

For guests coming out of town, it's nice to include a welcome basket and an optional accompanying tag. On it you can include the items in the basket and a little note thanking them for coming. Or, it can simply read 'welcome.'

Ceremony program

This is optional, especially if the ceremony is on the shorter side. If you choose to create one though it typically includes the couple's name, the date, location of the ceremony, a brief welcome, an overview of the proceedings, and the names of everyone involved in the ceremony.

Escort cards

Escort cards help direct guests to their assigned tables. Individual cards or a sign listing the names of guests and their designated tables are usually placed at the entrance of the reception.

Place cards

Place cards are more formal than escort cards and are, therefore, optional. They designate what table a guest will be sitting at along with the seat. They're typically used for sit-down dinner receptions and help the venue determine which guest is getting what meal.

Table number cards

This is important to include, especially if you're having a big wedding. It helps guests find their seats and provides some organization. Make sure the numbers printed on the cards are big enough for people to see.

Menu cards

Menu cards give an overview of what guests will be eating for their meal. Some will include options to choose from (entreé, sides, and dessert) while others (buffet or family style) will simply include the food on offer.

Favor tags

Favor Tags

These usually include the names of the couple and/or the date of the wedding. Including a tag is optional (a lot of favors these days are engraved on the gift itself) but it's also a nice touch.

After the Wedding

Thank-you cards

Generally, thank you cards should include the gift giver's name, what they bought, and a note of appreciation. They should be sent out within three weeks of receiving the gift. If you want to include photos from your wedding on or within your thank you cards, they can be sent out a little later.

Cohen suggests couples order personal stationery for their thank you cards and says to order extras to use anytime a handwritten note is needed. "It's a useful and stylish touch," she says.

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