Let's be real, most moms are literally dying to be involved in the wedding planning like, legit dying. They're just waiting for you to ask them to lend a helping hand. While chances are you already have your own ma on speed dial, why not get the mother of your groom in on the action too? Your guy will genuinely appreciate your efforts to include her. Plus, it takes a little pressure off your mom and provides the perfect family bonding experience. Whether the ladies live in the same city or on separate sides of the country, here are a few wedding projects you can assign them to work on together.
The Rehearsal Dinner
Traditionally, the groom's parents plan this, but it's 2015 and now anything goes. San Francisco based destination wedding planner Ashley Smith, founder of BuzzWorthy Events, personally loves to hand rehearsal dinner collaborations over to the mothers of the couple. "It's a great outlet for them and gives them a little control in a setting that doesn't really affect the wedding," she says. The moms can divide and conquer tasks, like floral arrangements and catering, or get together to bring the vision to life.
The Welcome Bags (Or Favors)
Throwing a destination wedding? Put both women to work creating the welcome bags (trust us, they'll dig it!). In addition to a few basics, like bottles of water, a snack and some Advil, let the moms each pick an item that they'd like to include, and preferably one that represents you and/or your family. For example, if you hail from the South, a bag of grits or mom's homemade biscuit mix would be perfect. Remember to really try to let them choose though without too much input; it'll be less stressful for you in the long run.
Even crafty brides know that DIY projects can turn into a huge headache real quick. That's why Phoenix, Arizona-based wedding planner Chandra Keel, owner of Chandra Keel Events, recommends reaching out to your mom and his for help. The best way to go about this? Make a girls' night out of it! "Let it be just the three of you, and save any other DIY projects for a night with your bridesmaids," she advises. "Treat your mom and soon to be mother-in-law to a nice dinner and some good wine, and use the opportunity to really bond with one another. They'll love being involved with the wedding planning process, and they'll cherish the night for many years to come." Not to mention, you'll get to check some stuff off your to-do list.