Just because mom lives across the country doesn't mean she can't pitch in with the wedding planning. Thanks to technology, she can attend meetings and collaborate on the design process from afar, not to mention all the traditional mother of the bride projects that are easy to tackle no matter where you are. Here are 6 wedding tasks your mom will be more than happy to help with — all you have to do is ask.
1. Dress shopping
What better excuse to take a vacay and squeeze in some quality time with mom than meeting up in a common city to go wedding dress shopping together? "Make a ladies weekend of it, and get her feedback on dress options," offers LA-based event designer Beth Helmstetter. "If it isn't possible to meet in person, set up a photo stream so she can stay up to date on the dress hunt." She'll also appreciate receiving fabric swatches of any gowns that are in the running so she can touch and feel the textiles herself, notes Helmstetter.
2. The overall design process
Create a secret wedding Pinterest board and grant mom access! "This way, she can follow along with your inspiration, as well as add her own pins as she comes across things she loves," says Helmstetter. Another idea? Loop her in on email exchanges with your invitation designer. "Many work remotely and send electronic proofs throughout the entire design process. Allowing mom to weigh in on these will ensure she feels included and involved."
3. The bridal shower
Who says you can't have multiple showers? The more the merrier, we say! "Put mom in charge of planning the engagement party in her city or a bridal shower for her and her friends," advises Helmstetter. Yes, you may have to fly or drive back home, but these are the bonding moments you'll both treasure forever.
4. Vendor meetings
Skype or FaceTime your mom in for key meetings, like the floral centerpiece mockup, suggests event designer and wedding planner Angel Swanson, owner of Love & Splendor in California. "I've had mothers contribute some great feedback on the size, colors and style of flowers," she reveals. "And even if they don't have any suggestions for changes, just being present by video chat still feels very special."
5. DIY projects
If your mom is crafty or has a special talent, why not see if it can be utilized for a fun wedding project? "I've commissioned mothers to make special wedding dé, including table runners, ceramic vases for flowers, a cake topper and even a wedding cake," says Swanson. "If she has beautiful handwriting, perhaps mom might be willing to address your envelopes." Folding programs, tying ribbons to escort cards and creating welcome bags for out of town guests are just a few long distance mom-friendly ideas.