Whether you’re opting for a traditional bridal shower, with games, tea, and gifts to turn a house into a home, or something more modern, (like a cooking class or a racier lingerie shower), a shower is a time-honored tradition where the women in your life come to celebrate you as you go from Miss to Mrs. But which women exactly? We asked our experts to fill us in on who gets an invitation.
Anyone who is invited to your bridal shower must be on your wedding guest list, but the rule doesn’t apply the other way. Unless you’re having a super-intimate wedding, there’s no need to invite every single woman who’s on your wedding guest list to your bridal shower. (Of course, if there are only 20 or so women being invited to your wedding, you should include them all in your shower!)
Let’s start with the people who you have to include: both of your mothers, your sisters, and all of your bridesmaids. If your shower will be near where one of your families lives (or is hosted by a family member), extend that list to your grandmothers and aunts. Don’t forget the flower girl (and her mom)!
Are you alright celebrating with a slightly bigger crowd? Add a few close friends beyond the bridal party, as well as any other family members you’re close to (like great-aunts, cousins, or your mom’s BFF). But remember, even if you aren’t planning the event yourself, you’re the guest of honor! If you’d rather have a smaller crowd, let the host know what you’re comfortable with.
People you don’t have to invite: any groomsmen’s wives or girlfriends (unless you’re friends with them), as well as any wedding guests you know but aren’t super close to. You have to cut the list off somewhere, so decide what works for you and stick to it.