You’re engaged! Now it’s time to celebrate, and what better way to do that than with an engagement party? While other pre-wedding events have pretty standard etiquette around planning and hosting, from your maid of honor planning the bachelorette party to the parents of the groom hosting the rehearsal dinner, engagement parties are a little less clear. So who is supposed to host the engagement party? Here’s what our experts have to say.
The great thing about the more-relaxed traditions surrounding an engagement party is that just about anyone can step in to plan and host the event, from a friend or family member to the newly engaged couple themselves.
The breakdown of who hosts often depends on the formality of the event. A more-casual get-together, like cocktails at a local bar or drinks at someone’s apartment, is often hosted by a friend of the couple’s. This event is often relatively impromptu, (closely following the couple’s engagement), and the guest list is more focused on celebrating with the couple and their friends than sticking strictly to those who will be invited to the wedding.
For something slightly more formal, such as an event held in a private room at a local restaurant for cocktails and hors d’oeuvres, the couple may opt to host themselves or to have a close friend or family member serve as the host. This guest list may be more true to those who will be invited to the wedding, especially if the bride and groom are involved in the planning.
The most formal of engagement parties is often hosted by either the bride or groom’s parents, a close relative, or an older family friend. This could be a sit-down dinner, heavy hors d’oeuvres in someone’s home, or another type of event that requires a little more planning—and it might even include mailed invitations! For an event like this, the host will most likely get in touch with you regarding your preliminary guest list to make sure whoever they invite will definitely be getting a wedding invitation as well.
And of course you can always have an engagement party yourselves! That might be drinks shortly after you say yes or an event as a fun break to the planning process. Why not take every opportunity to celebrate?!