Including your mom in the wedding planning process is all about playing to her strengths. If she’s got an eye for style, take her wedding dress shopping. A whiz in the kitchen? Reception menu tasting is the job for her! But what about on your wedding day? Chances are your mom will want to help make sure everything runs smoothly, but you’ll want her to be able to enjoy the moment, too! So what’s okay to add to her day-of to-do list, and what should you leave to the professional wedding vendors? Our experts have the answer.
On the day of your wedding, leave as many logistical items as possible to the vendors you’ve hired. There’s no need for your mom to help set the tables when your planner and florist have the tablescapes under control, and the last thing she should be worrying about is whether the musicians have arrived at the church!
Instead, give her responsibilities you know she’ll be happy to help with, but that won’t take away from her experience on your wedding day. If she’s one of those moms who loves to feed you and your friends, ask her to help put together a lunch for you and your bridesmaids — but keep the menu simple! Is your niece the flower girl? Ask Mom to help wrangle the little ones as you’re getting your hair done, and keep a few bribes in her purse to help get the kids down the aisle. And if you’ll be borrowing any family heirlooms on your wedding day, Mom is the perfect person to keep all of those little details organized.
While a great photographer won’t need your mom’s help organizing people for family photos or sticking to your list of must-get shots, they’ll love having someone who knows names and faces to help double-check if all the cousins made it in. The same goes for seating chart confusion. While your planner would be able to handle almost anything, your mom can definitely step in to help find a spot for a surprise Plus One!
Her biggest job, though? To enjoy being the mother of the bride, try not to cry too much, and to help keep you calm before you head down the aisle.