We like to give our readers regular glimpses into the mind-set of a guy's brain on weddings. So this week, the hilarious and smart editors at The Plunge are giving us the crucial factors to keep in mind when shopping for wedding rings with your groom.
When a man is determined to take the plunge, one of his most nerve-wracking tasks is picking out an engagement ring. We have to balance a number of things — cost, your expectations, the element of surprise. If we manage to pull off the proposal without any serious setbacks, if you're delighted with the ring and the way we presented it to you, you can bet that we're saying to ourselves, "I'm so glad that's over. I never want to buy another ring in my life."
Except that we have to buy another ring, almost immediately. Actually, we have to buy two.
Choosing the wedding band is easier for us than picking an engagement ring. After all, we can work with you to find the perfect one. But embarking on a joint project has its own dangers, and if we don't agree on a few guidelines, relationship chaos may ensue.
With that in mind, here are a few rules we'd like to establish:
1. Money Is an Issue
We may have just spent an insane amount of coin on your engagement ring, and we are about to spend a lot of money on a wedding and honeymoon. So, the sky is not the limit when it comes to the wedding bands.
We're not saying you'll have to settle for a plastic ring from a Cracker Jack box. Our fellow Internet experts tell us that the wedding ring should be about 25 to 35 percent of the cost of the engagement ring. So we're still talking something quite nice.
2. Keep It Classic
When it comes to our ring, let us stick with the classics: a plain band in gold, silver, or platinum. Our points of reference for style are going to be the rings we've seen our fathers, brothers, or friends wearing. We aren't flipping through magazines and taking surveys to determine whether we're a "traditional-gold-band groom" or "modern-platinum man."
Remember, we will be wearing our ring out in the world, among our fellow men. Men who like to make fun of each other — either in a friendly "I'm just breaking balls" kind of way or as an alternative to beating each other's heads in. We're looking for something solid, dependable, not too delicate. Your band can be gem-encrusted and girly (if that's your thing), but if ours is anything less than manly, we'll be in for no end of grief. Besides, plain bands look good on us.
3. Ditch Third-Party Advisors
Don't let your choice be too influenced by your mother or your friends. Okay, obviously you're going to ask their advice, but remember: These rings will symbolize the partnership that we are about to embark on. This is a joint project between the two of us — not between us and your family members or your best friend since junior year in college. This may very well be the first joint purchase we make, so let's keep things within the family: our family of two.