When it comes to resolutions in the new year, we typically focus on self-improvement. Losing weight, saving more money, working harder, eating healthier—you know the deal. But what about resolving to do something even more important than any of those? We think everyone should resolve to love themselves more in the new year. Here’s how to focus on self care in 2018.
Talking to yourself is actually cool, we promise. Combining positive thinking with yourself love goals, repeating positive mantras and reminders out loud and to yourself can really help to reinforce new belief systems that you want to embrace. Beginners could try, “I am enough,” I am worthy of my dreams,” or “Happiness is a choice,” before moving on to bigger, loftier goals. Putting the positive thinking into place (and into the universe) will shift negative thinking to positive thinking, allowing yourself to love yourself.
If you find yourself feeling low, unsettled or a little lost, gratitude journals can help. By jotting down daily reminders of what your thankful or grateful for, and yes- writing them down is actually very important for it to work so put your tablet or phone down- your mind will begin to realize that despite what you’re facing or thinking at the moment, there is always something to be thankful for. Use this as an excuse to buy yourself a fancy journal or notebook, and keep it by your nightstand to jot down your thankful thoughts before bed. Sweet dreams and happiness will surely follow.
As the holiday season wraps up, “me” time may sound hard to come by. In the year ahead, promise yourself not only to make time for, but also to enjoy taking time to do something (or nothing) for yourself. Whether its napping on the couch, binging Netflix, attending a yoga class, going for a long walk, or anything else that brings you solo-comfort, do it. Plan for a weekly chunk of time devoted to you and what you want to do, and nothing and nobody else.
Recognizing that you’re a human being, and that all human beings share the common thread of imperfection and regrets is one of the biggest steps you can take toward self-love. Vow to make 2018 the year of forgiveness, not only for your past mistakes, wrongs and indiscretions, but for those that others have done to you, too. Gandhi once said, "The wake can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” Be strong, forgive, and you’ll begin to feel the shift within your mindset and sense of peace.