When your BFF gets engaged, it's not any ol' announcement — this is an all-hands-on-deck kind of situation. After all, as Irene S. Levine, Ph.D., psychologist, friendship expert, and creator of The Friendship Blog, explains, "you've likely been planning and talking about this day with her for a long time, and fanaticizing about all the details, from the ring to the proposal to the venue. You've seen her relationship blossom with her now-fiancé, and it's likely that you are one of the closest relationships in her life next to him."
So, you get it. And when your favorite gal pal gets engaged, there are certain things you should do, stat. "In the whirlwind of emotion and congratulations following an engagement, she'll remember the people who went above and beyond — whether it was seeing her on the eve of her engagement, or sending flowers or a congratulatory package of bridal must-haves, such as new bridal magazines or a ring holder for her new engagement ring," says Levine.
First, says Levine, express your happiness for your friend as soon as possible. If she's called you to share the news, squeal your joy through the phone. Or, if you find out on Facebook, be sure to like her post and leave a complimentary comment.
Then, says Levine, "planning an impromptu get together for close friends following the engagement to celebrate is always a nice gesture, and a way to get the scoop on how and where he proposed to her." A brunch with mimosas might be just what the new bride ordered. If you're looking for specific suggestions on how to celebrate your friend's brand-new engagement, though, Levine also has you covered. Here are five unique ways you can show her just how happy you are for the happy couple.
1. Buy her a celebratory beverage.
Asks Levine, "What better way to toast an engagement than with champagne?" We can't help but agree. But don't stop with just a bottle of bubbly. "Give her a new set of monogrammed champagne glasses with her future initials," suggests Levine.
2. Get crafty.
If you've got an artist's touch, head to your closest craft store and get to scrapbooking, suggests Levine. "Creating a photo book of their engagement or memories from their relationship is a keepsake that will help her remember this special time," she explains.
3. Send her a note.
Text messages and phone chats may be our preferred mode of communication in today's day-and-age. But, "while phone calls and messages are always appreciated, the art of a hand written note shouldn't be forgotten," says Levine. "Your sentiments will stay with her much longer than a voicemail."
4. Share your insider information.
We know wedding planning can be stressful. But if you're recently engaged or married yourself, you ease your friend's anxiety by sharing resources you've found or used yourself, Levine says. Think: vendor recommendations, wedding website suggestions, and wedding dress advice. "Firsthand information from a friend is more valuable than any review she'll read online," Levine says.
5. Be a sounding board.
Finally, says Levine, don't forget to sit back and listen to your friend when she needs an ear. "Being a sounding board for all of the wedding planning is always helpful," says Levine, who adds that taking her t the spa while you're chatting away doesn't hurt either.