As a sex educator and sexologist, I regularly turn to creative ways of expressing my sexual wants. A vision board may sound a little woo-woo, but it’s actually a very helpful exercise in envisioning the future sex life you want.
I make vision boards for my sexual self probably every three months or so. It was a cornerstone of my sexological training and continues to be a useful way to step outside of my head and into the more fluid nature of sexuality.
Sit down and think about your sex life and what you love about it. Then, think about what you could improve on, the adventurous things you’d want to try next, a fantasy you have, or even just a general mood or feeling. Sometimes you won’t even know what the vision looks like until you’ve actually made your board. The key is to not take it too seriously. Think of this as more of a release or a fun, noncommittal art project.
When I make vision boards for my sex life, I just roll with it. (You should see some of the weird stuff I’ve created.) There are no real rules or true guidelines, so don't put too much pressure on yourself.
Here is my step-by-step process for making a vision board for your sex life.
Step 1: Get Your Materials Together
You need art materials to make art, duh. You’ll want to buy some of these or gather them from around the house:
A big piece of poster board. Color doesn’t matter, just get something that feels right. I’m not a huge blue fan, but this bold royal blue pulled me in.
Magazines you don’t mind destroying. (Or anything that you can use for inspo pics)
3. Glitter pens, markers, stickers, etc.
4. A glue stick/hot glue gun.
5. Anything else you want on the vision board. I sometimes use dried flower petals on my boards.
Step 2: Pick Images and Words
Start flipping through the magazines. Cut out pictures, images, colors, and words that feel like your future sexual self. In my vision board, you’ll see a lot of flowers, fires being lit, and words like “intense” and “take a chance.”
While I wasn’t totally sure why this spoke to me at the time, I believe it has a lot to do with my engagement and upcoming wedding. I’m excited for a new adventure with my fiancé and to try new sexy things—with lots of sex toys, of course.
Step 3: Just Do It
Do not get bogged down with the placement of your words and images. Just start cutting and sticking things to the board. I decided I wanted a girl in the pink skirt to be holding an orange slice so I made it happen. It represents new zest and flavor and being willing to reach for it.
It doesn’t matter if your vision board isn’t the most gorgeous thing you’ve ever made. It’s about unlocking your sexual subconscious and exploring your sexuality through creativity. Envisioning your sexual future helps you make it a reality.
Step 4: Look at the Finished Product
The whole board may not be covered or it might be overflowing with stuff. If you get the feeling in your mind that you’re finished, stop what you’re doing; the exercise has run its course. Take a step back and look at what you’ve created.
Snap some photos of the finished product. You may want to easily look at it in the future, especially when things are a bit down in the dumps emotionally and you’re craving inspiration in the bedroom. You can always create more vision boards in the future. Your sexual revolution is ongoing.
Step 5: Reflect and Appreciate
Take some time to reflect upon what you’ve done and what it means to you. For me, this vision board encapsulates my excitement and my nerves about moving into a new phase of my life. It pulls together the wild, passionate sexual future I hope to have, and the beautiful mystery that is the present.
Don’t rush to clean up and move on with your day. Stare at your vision board and consider what you would need to do to manifest this sexual self. And remember, don’t take yourself too seriously. Be willing to be creative with it. Maybe one vision board is a mood and one winds up being a bunch of Kama Sutra positions. The sky is the limit.