Have you ever caught a glimpse of yourself having sex in a mirror and thought, “Damn. That is hot.” Well, you are not alone.
Mirrors are a great addition to sex. You might be thinking of that Lady Gaga song “A-Yo” where she talks about “mirrors on the ceiling,” but, don't worry, there are more strategic ways to handle mirror-placement than onto the ceiling like you’re in a cheap, by-the-hour motel.
(Not that we're judging. If you want to put a mirror on your ceiling, you do that. No one is stopping you!)
For those looking for a little more, um, practical advice: here is what you need to know.
We’re into mirrors for a variety of reasons, but we’ll stick to the two main ones for the purposes of clarity and brevity: Voyeurism and porn.
Voyeurism is the act of watching two people have sex (most of the time without them knowing you’re there). This is a common sexual fantasy, though obviously it's not OK to act out unless all parties involved have consented to the watching and being watched. This is how mirrors help to make that fantasy come to life: You get to have sex, and watch yourselves at the same time.
For some, this helps them live out that voyeuristic dream without involving others in their sex life. There is a little voyeur in all of us. We like watching other people do things and take a peek into the lives of others—just look at reality TV! Sex is the ultimate taboo act, so watching yourself have sex is like getting a bird's-eye view into an imagined, private, dirty scene. Bonus: YOU get to have the orgasms.
Secondly, porn. Watching yourself in a mirror is like your own personal porno. You get to see yourself enjoy being touched, watching your partner do things to your body while you do things to theirs. Needless to say, it’s pretty hot. When you’re used to being “in” on the action, seeing it from the “outside” can be a major turn on. Call it self-absorption, but it’s still sexy.
Get a full length mirror
You know we’re not talking about one of those Officemax cheap mirrors you had in your college dorm room freshman year. Invest in a good, full length mirror.
You are a grown adult and you deserve better than that— scout local or vintage shops, and look for big, ornate mirrors. This will not only add class to your bedroom, but it won’t look like you’re buying a mirror for the sheer purpose of watching yourselves get nasty.
If Versailles is not your thing, you can always go more “modern chic” with a large stainless steel mirror. Just be sure whatever mirror you have is big enough for both your bodies to fully fit inside the frame.
Strategically place the mirror
You’ll want to place the mirror across from your bed. Or, at the very least, where you can turn on the bed and see yourselves in the mirror. Usually the best place is on the largest wall in the room. Keep other furniture light. With a large mirror, too much “stuff” can look cluttered.
You don't just have to be on the bed to get up in on that mirror action. Lean your hands against the mirror while standing, have your partner enter you from behind. You’ll get an up-close view of everything happening to you. You can also stand against the mirror while your partner goes down on you while on his or her knees, giving them an excellent view of your juicy booty.
But first be sure the mirror is steadily reinforced. (Use a stud-finder to locate the two-by-fours along your wall.) You do not want to lean your hands (or butt) against a mirror lain into drywall; It will fall and you will injure you.
Last question … Can you have a mirror on your ceiling?
If you want a mirror on your ceiling, you go for it. Seriously, it’s your life and your bedroom. You can do whatever you want. If someone wants to come into your house, into your bedroom, and make a judgement about your ceiling mirror, well, that is on them.
That being said, many people may not want to display their sex lives so prominently when they often have visiting guests, in-laws, and personal friends coming over, but if you are into it then do it. The point still stands: It’s YOUR choice.