Yes, It's Okay to Have an Uneven Bridal Party (Just Follow These Rules)

Nathan Smith

What's a bride to do when she wants more (or fewer) bridesmaids than her groom wants groomsmen? Well, for one, stop freaking out and start looking at the positives. Not only will you have all the girls you adore by your side on your big day, but you also won't feel pressured into adding or subtracting people simply to ensure your numbers match. For brides-to-be with an uneven wedding party, here's how to strike the perfect balance seamlessly.

1. Go solo or double up. If the walking in and out of the ceremony part has you stressed out, relax; you've got a couple of cute options. You can either let your attendants strut their stuff solo or have each groomsmen walk with two bridesmaids (or vice versa if there are more groomsmen), advises San Francisco-based event planner Samantha Spector of Milk & Honey Special Events. Of course, you can adjust how many people in your wedding party need to double up based on your particular numbers. Plan on having your pooch walk down the aisle? You could always match up the dog lover in the bigger group with your pup.

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Samantha Spector is a planner with Milk & Honey Special Events, an event planning firm servicing the San Francisco Bay Area and Wine Country that brings client's visions to life.

2. Get creative with spacing. Trick the camera and your guests into thinking your numbers are actually even by using space to your advantage. During the ceremony, Spector suggests having the side with fewer attendants spread out, creating extra space in between each person, while the side with more attendants stands closer together. "This would make each side a similar length," she explains. "Some couples also opt to have their attendants seated in the front rows instead of standing alongside them."

3. Mix it up. Why have all the guys stand on his side and the girls on yours? Make things symmetrical, and unique at that, by mixing the bridesmaids and groomsmen up on both sides, recommends Spector. "As far as photos go, unless there is just a difference of one or two attendants, this approach is also a good idea," she says.

4. Have them all stand on one side. This idea definitely works best for wedding parties where there's a very noticeable difference between the number of bridesmaids versus the number of groomsmen, notes Annie Lee, principal planner and founder of Daughter of Design. "Have the wedding party stand as a group on one side and stagger them like you would for a class photo or tier them in steps if available," she advises.

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