The only possible downside of having your engagement be a “surprise” is the risk that you might end up with something other than the engagement ring of your dreams. Fear not – we’re here to help. Follow these simple steps to help ensure your future spouse knows exactly what you’d like in an engagement ring, without having to spell it out for them. Just be careful to not overdo it on the engagement ring hints — too much pressure isn’t good!
Compliment Other Rings Specifically
Of course it’s always nice to compliment others on their new additions to their left hands, but try to get a little more specific about what you love about their engagement ring, especially when your S.O. is around! If you LOVE a good halo, make sure you say something! Does a rose gold band make you swoon? Share that. Not only will you be flattering your newly engaged friends, but you’ll be multitasking! (Hint: when you’re alone, you can also comment about things you might NOT have liked, to be even more specific.)
“Forget” to Close Your Windows
Okay, this might not be the subtlest way in the world to hint at what you want, but if there’s no shame in your game, leaving up your Pinterest board on a shared computer is a great way to share your favorite gems, without outright saying it!
Prepare Your Posse
If the engagement is going to be a surprise, chances are your soon-to-be fiancé might reach out to your nearest and dearest for some shopping help, or to at least point him/her in the right direction. Take full advantage of this by being prepared. Make sure your mom, sister, bestie, and maybe even future mother-in-law know what your dream ring looks like. This will definitely up the that odds you’ll love the surprise.
Spontaneous Window Shopping
There’s no shame in the window-shopping game, especially if it’s spontaneous. When you walk past a jewelry store display, check it out with your significant other in tow. Comment on what you see, and if you really love something, be sure to say it! Without the pressure, genuine reactions to rings that are (strategically or not) right in front of you is natural and subtle enough to get them thinking, without added pressure.
This might be a little bit more direct, but it’s necessary. If there’s an heirloom stone in your family you know is headed your way, it’s important to let your love know ahead of time, of course. While you don’t have to talk about it ad nauseam, you can have your family bring it up privately in conversation (if it’s obvious your relationship is headed that way) or you can mention it first, and point them in the right direction as to how to get it. Be sure to specifically say if you like it the way it is, or if you’d like it reset or redesigned.