At some point in all of our lives, our inboxes and our mailboxes start to fill up with more wedding save the dates and invitations than our social calendars can properly digest. We'll start marking off dates on our calendar and before we know it, we'll realize that we're going to more weddings in a year than we can count on two hand — let alone even actually afford to attend. But what happens when you have two friends getting married on the exact same day, at the exact same time? Do you have to choose one wedding over another, and if so, how do you pick? Or, can you just find a way to go to both?
The first thing you should consider is location. If they are both in the same city, you can make a case as to why and how you'll find a way to go to both. If they are a half hour or more apart, it'll be quite hard and stressful to make it to both.
You can always say 'I do' to going to one person's ceremony and to the other person's reception. If you chose this route, let the couple whose ceremony you're going to know that you won't be staying for the reception. That way, they don't pay the bill for you to be included in their catering headcount.
If you decide to try to split your time at both parties, remember that with traffic and other unavoidable challenges along the way, you may end up showing up to wedding number two when guests are starting to leave.
The moral of the story is that you should truly only say yes to two weddings if you can travel to both easily and fast. If not, go to the wedding of the person who has been in your life longer. It's the best way to pick between weddings — and the only way you won't hurt the feelings of the couple you have to send an RSVP of no to.
Jen Glantz is a "Professional Bridesmaid" and the founder of Bridesmaid for Hire. She's the author of All My Friends Are Engaged and frequently wears old bridesmaid dresses to the grocery store and on first dates.