While being a groom seems like it’s all fun and games, it’s also a whole lot of work. There’s way more to do than just getting your crew together to spend a weekend away on a bachelor party or spending an afternoon shopping for a wedding tuxedo. Often times, you’ll find yourself as your fiancé’s partner-in-crime, sweating over making key wedding decisions, plotting over who should make the guest list, and figuring out how to put out fires that stem from family drama you didn’t see coming.
Wondering what you should keep in mind as the wedding adventure progresses? Here are seven tweets that totally sum up what your job looks like as a groom.
1. You Play the Ultimate Waiting Game
As a groom, it can feel like from the time you propose to the time the wedding actually happens, there’s a lot of waiting around. While your fiancé makes some of the decisions and picks out her wedding dress, which is hush hush until you see her on the big day, you might find that your to-do list is mostly empty but the anxious nerves of excitement are full-blown as you count down the days until you can say I do.
2. You Realize It’s More Work Than You Could Have Imagined
Planning a wedding is more intense than you probably could have ever guessed it to be. You’ll go on many weekend searches to find the right vendors, spend hours picking out the right decorations, and even pine over figuring out the right words to use during your vows. Get ready to spend a lot of quality time acting as a co-wedding planner with your fiancé.
3. You Have to Do Some Hiding
While you’re in on most of the decision making, there are a few things that your fiancé might want to keep a secret from you. The outfit they picked out, the gift they are giving you on the wedding day, and even what you they look like after their hair and makeup is done, might all be something they want to close your eyes to until the big moment comes.
4. You Have to Groom Yourself More Than Usual
Thought you could just get a haircut and roll out of bed to the wedding? There’s going to be some extra glam needed for you to prepare for the wedding day. You might want to consider getting a fresh shave and even getting a manicure so that your nails look perfect in pictures.
5. Football Sundays are Now Florist Sundays
Don’t plan too many extracurricular activities or weekend outings with your friends unless you’re ok with canceling them last minute. While Sundays in the past might have been preoccupied with football games or golf outings, most of them, before the wedding, will be spent with wedding vendors.
6. There’s Pressure to Write Meaningful Vows
Even if in the past you weren’t known to be very sappy, when it comes to your vows having the most perfect word to recite to your partner, in front of all of your guests, will mean the world to them. Put in thought, give yourself time to write, and practice your vows before the big day comes around and you have your one chance to read them in front of everyone.
7. There are Rules to Follow
Weddings come with a long list of traditions, customs, and rules to follow. Before the big day arrives, make sure that you and your fiancé are on the same page about what to expect and what you’re able to do or not able to do at the wedding. Even if you have a great idea for attire to wear, get the OK before buying the suit of your dreams.