As you’re sorting through your responsibilities as the bride or the groom’s leader of the wedding party, you’ll notice there are a few big tasks that you have to conquer. One of those might be planning pre-wedding activities, like a bachelor or bachelorette party, and the other will be writing a memorable, funny, and emotional wedding toast.
If you’re someone who dreads public speaking, flirts with writer’s block, or just doesn’t even know where to start when it comes to putting together a toast, the idea of giving a speech on the couple’s wedding day can seem daunting and overwhelming.
To help get you started, and make you laugh, here are eight tweets that sum up what giving a best man or maid of honor toast is really like.
1. You’re Going to Have to Control Your Emotions
Even if the main goal of your speech is to make the newlywed couple all warm and fuzzy inside, don’t think that you’re exempt from feeling those emotions too. Practice your speech over and over, and insert pauses throughout, just in case you burst out into happy tears. If that does happen, keep tissues close by and hand a copy of the speech to the couple after, so they can read over the parts that might have come out jumbled from too much emotion pouring out of you.
2. You Want It to Sound #Adult
If you’re not an avid speech giver, chances are, this wedding toast will be the first public talk you’ve given in a while. When deciding what format and style to go with, keep the speech mature and leave out the urge to do one long rhyming poem.
3. It’s Tempting to Wait Until the Last Minute
If you’re fighting with writer’s block and a gnarly to-do list that’s keeping you away from putting the pen to the paper, you may find yourself waiting until the very last minute to write your speech. Try to piece together ideas and structure ahead of time, even if that means putting the final touches on the speech a few days before. That way, you won’t be looking at a blank piece of paper hours before the speech is supposed to be given.
4. You Face a Lot of Writer’s Block
While it might feel weird to be at a loss of words for a person that means so much to you, it’s completely normal. You have too much to say about this person who has stuck by you throughout your life and because of that, it’s hard to figure out where to start. Think about a memory that often replays in your head about them and consider starting with that story.
5. You’ll Wish You Had a Speech Writer to Hire
After spending many hours trying to piece together a memorable speech, you’ll start to wonder if it’s worth it to just fork over the cash to hire a speech writer. That way, your speech can be exactly how you want it to be and you can carry on with the rest of your wedding party duties.
6. You’ll Be Tempted to Keep It Short and Sweet
If you’re the kind of person who doesn’t like public speaking or writing speeches, you’ll want to keep your wedding toast short and sweet. But how short is too short? For best results, keep your speech under five minutes and over 90 seconds. You should have enough time to tell a few stories and give well wishes to the couple without sounding too generic.
7. You Feel Pressure to Make People Feel Things
Putting your own emotions aside about writing this speech, you’ll start to put a lot of pressure on yourself to write a speech that makes people feel something. At times, you’ll want them to be laughing, crying, happy, or just excited for the couple. All of those emotions will come through in the words you pick and also in the way you deliver the speech to the audience.
8. You’ll Consider Just Winging It
After a lot of back and forth, and quality time spent with a blank piece of paper, you might just throw your hands in the air and decide to wing the speech. Even if you’ve decided to give minimal preparation for your speech, be sure to have talking points and practice too. You don’t want to ramble or run out of things to say too early.