Rimming. Ever heard of it? Have you perhaps heard people discussing it and wondered what in the heck they were talking about? Or maybe you’re a step more rim-averse and can’t understand why anyone would want to engage in such an act in the first place.
To be frank: Rimming is licking your partner’s butt hole, or having your partner lick your butt hole. Anallingus. It is all the rage, and has been for a very long time (remember that one Sex and the City episode...you know the one).
Yes, it is a thing and there are some seriously pleasurable benefits to this kind of play. We know it may sound...umm, unusual, but people far and wide are engaging in anallingus. If you’re not down to try it, that’s totally fine! You get to make your own choices about your sex life.
What we have here is an explainer into its erogenous potential and some pointers, should you be curious to try it or are simply interested in knowing more.
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You’re not ignorant or uncool for asking this question. Lots of people, both male, female, and gender non-conforming may wonder what the appeal might be of putting your mouth where you typically make number 2.
Potty humor aside, butt stuff is very common. And that’s because (cue the drum roll, please) it feels good!
The anal opening is clustered with nerves. It is a highly sensitive piece of anatomy. Having a tongue circle the anal opening, or even penetrate it can be a unique and very sexy feeling. We find pleasure in all kinds of unique ways, why wouldn’t anallingus make the list? Pssst. It does.
The same way having your partner insert a finger into your butt might feel good, so too could a mouth or tongue. Licking and penetration by a finger or toy are different sensations, but are similar.
But is it safe? Why sure, you just have to be sure you’re doing it correctly.
Be sure to clean up first
Now, you don’t need to be a super genius to know an anus is the same place where poop comes out. Let’s get over the “eww” factor—it’s 2018 and we’re adults. It’s OK to like what you like.
In order to give or receive pleasurable anallingus, you need to be properly cleaned up down there. If you want to do an enema, that’s totally up to you. (We recommend an enema bulb—they are safe to use and even the neophytes among us can figure it out.)
You do not, REPEAT, do not NEED to do an enema before anal play of any kind. Simply hopping in the shower and using a mild soap and warm water is completely fine. Everything is about preference.
Enemas can be quite challenging and uncomfortable for some. If it’s not your vibe, don’t feel pressured to do it.
Don’t go right for gold
If you’ve decided to try rimming, that’s awesome. Go for it and enjoy, brave traveler!
But, don’t just kiss your partner hello after work, pull his or her pants down, and go for it. Work up to it. Kiss their stomach, lick their thighs, nibble their butt cheeks. Warm them up to the anallingus. It can be very intense and the more relaxed you are, the better.
If you’re receiving, don’t tense up. Try to breathe into your body and let your butt cheeks relax. If you’re giving, use those muscles, but encourage your partner to chill out. Remember, if you try anallingus and decide you’re not into it, you can always stop.
Gently tease the anal opening. You can try circular motions to start. Ask if your partner likes what you’re doing or if they’d want you to try a different technique.
One last thing: Always, always wash your mouth out before performing cunninlingus or receiving it, or you may end up with an infection such as bacterial vaginosis. The same rules apply to anal sex: If something went into your anus, it needs to be thoroughly disinfected before it enters your vagina.