Did you know that shower sex does not necessarily mean standing sex positions and trying to overcome a height difference? Good sex doesn’t always mean penetration. And when it comes to shower sex, it rarely does. It’s time to get real about sex in the shower so we can all have more orgasms.
Shower sex is something everyone seems to talk about, but no one knows how to pull off. After reading dozens of articles on the subject, it feels like you’re no better off. Luckily, we have the tips to put the confusion to rest. Finally.
Here is the ultimate guide to making shower sex happen (and making it hot).
Make a sensual art of washing each other
Don’t rush things. Set aside a full hour for shower play. Your foreplay is soap. There is something very primal about cleaning your partner. In fact, animals do it in the wild. You’ve seen the nature videos where monkeys pick bugs off of each other. This is a form of bonding. We don’t get an opportunity to engage in this action very often.
Take shampoo and wash your partner’s hair. Have him or her wash yours too. The suds are super sexy. Massage each other’s scalps. You’ll both wind up very slippery. After you rinse and put in conditioner, there is a great opportunity to fool around while you wait for it to “set.” Press your partner against the side of the shower and go to town.
You can have soft tresses and orgasms. No need to choose.
Make-out under the water
The running shower should be a part of the sex, not something you need to get around or avoid. Embrace the water running down your face and into your mouth and eyes. It’s an essential element of the experience.
Make out hard. Feel your partner’s wet shoulders, chest, and stomach. Shower sex is less about getting it in quickly and moving on with your day, and is more about enjoying sensation play. Wet skin, warm water. Take your time. Who doesn’t love a nice, long shower?
Penetration is hard, so do other stuff
If we’re being honest, shower sex is not fun when you insist penetrative sex as the end-all-be-all goal. Water, while technically “wet,” does not make for proper lubrication. In fact, it washes away the natural lubrication your vagina makes.
Even though the word “sex” is in the name “shower sex,” it’s actually not about P in the V at all. It’s so much more than that.
Stick to hand jobs, clit rubbing, and oral sex. We put so much pressure on having intercourse that we wind up taking the wind out of the sails. You can have so much more fun doing other stuff. Go with the flow (pun intended).
Get some toys
To up the ante even more, try getting some shower-approved sex toys. A vibrator can make all the difference when you’re getting busy at bath-time. You can even keep a designated “shower vibrator” on the shower ledge for this specific use.
We suggest keeping it simple and easy to use. We love the Squish from Unbound. It’s small, powerful, and waterproof. The more you squeeze this lemon-shaped toy, the harder the vibrations become. Zero buttons to worry about. No muss, no fuss.
Try standing sex positions
If penetration must happen, try some easy standing sex positions. The simpler, the better. If you need some help figuring out which positions might work for you, check out our guide.
Again, these aren’t super easy to pull off. If you aren’t feeling it or it isn’t working, don’t get down on yourself. Quickly (and smoothly) transition into other sexual play. Just because intercourse doesn’t play out, doesn’t mean the play has to stop. You’ll get back into it in about 10 seconds if you keep the faith.
Bring in silicone lube (for intercourse and more)
Water-based lube is usually a standard go to, but it doesn’t have the same staying power of silicone lube. For shower sex, silicone lube is a must. We love Uberlube for shower play. Put some on your partner’s fingers before he or she rubs your clitoris (during that hot, wet make-out session we mentioned above).
Don’t use silicone lube with silicone toys (like the Squish!), as it can damage the material. Since you’re in the shower, you’re less likely to have corrosion as the lube won’t sit on the toy after you’re finished. Simply wash the vibrator under the faucet with soap directly after use. You already have the water running!
Just like with your shower vibe(s), put the lube in your caddy for easy access any time you’re feeling frisky.