You’ve heard it your whole life: If you get a gift, send a thank-you note! And that advice is never more important than when it comes to your wedding. But sending thank-you notes doesn’t have to be a chore! Here are seven tips from our experts to make thank-you notes easy while still totally thoughtful.
As soon as you get engaged, find thank-you cards you love, and order extras. Grab a few books of stamps from the post office, pick up your favorite pens, and keep everything together so you’re ready as soon as the first gift comes in. You don't want to be scrambling for supplies when you need them!
Make addressing easy.
When you order your stationery, spring for envelopes that have your return address printed on the back. That’s one less thing to write by hand! And if you’ve got your guests’ addresses organized in a spreadsheet, you can always print up address labels instead of handwriting every single one. There—you’ve shaved a few minutes off each card already!
Yes, you should keep a list of who sent you what, but don’t save it for the flight to your honeymoon. Instead, write down the name of the giver and what he or she got you, then immediately write a thank-you note (and mark that you’ve done it!) so you don’t fall behind. It’s much easier to write a few notes every now and then than to try to write 100 all at once.
Keep them short and sweet.
Thank-you notes don’t have to be more than a few sentences, which is plenty of space for a thoughtful message. A greeting, a thank-you for the gift (which you should mention specifically!), and a personalized sentiment are all it takes.
Make them personal.
Thank your guest for the gift, then add a line about why you love it. Imagine what you’ll cook in your Dutch oven first, or say that you can’t wait to have her over for a bottle of wine in your new stemware. Did any gifts come before your wedding? Let your guests know how excited you are to celebrate with them. If your wedding has already passed, mention a moment that you shared on the big day.
Even if your handwriting is better than your fiancé’s, you shouldn’t feel like you have to write all of the notes. You should each write thank-you notes to your own family members and close friends, then split up those for mutual friends between you.
Sign both names.
You don’t need to sign each other’s cards, but you should be sure to include both of your names at the end. The gift was for the two of you, after all!