Weddings are stressful — that's a fact — so stressful that often times the whole wedding experience can make you a little more emotional, anxious, and sleep-deprived causing you to think in different ways. It may push your buttons in so many different ways that you may find yourself asking, "do I even want to get married? Am I having cold feet?" It happens all the time, and no matter what you think, you're not alone. So, if you're about to get married and you're starting to wonder if walking down the aisle is what you actually want to do, here are four things to do to help you figure out those circling thoughts inside your head.
1. Spend Some Alone Time
Get away from it all, — the wedding planning, the emails, the stress from your bridal party doing everything but what you'd like them to do — and try to relax. Runaway, for a few days, letting people know where you're going but taking some time for yourself and putting your phone on airplane mode. Clear your head and get to a place where you feel like you're starting to think like yourself again. Then try to wrap yourself around the situation of having cold feet.
2. Open Up to Someone You Trust
Whether it's your maid of honor, a family member, or another person in your life, let them know how you're feeling. Sometimes, just by talking and letting things off your chest to someone who doesn't give you much advice, will allow you to be able to come to a conclusion, solving your problems too.
3. Find the Root of the Situation
Try to determine if your cold feet is because of all the stress the wedding has put on you or because you truthfully don't want to get married.
4. Be Open with Your Significant Other
Have a conversation with your significant other and let them know how you're feeling about the whole thing. Even if you have some reservations, stay open and honest with them.
*Jen Glantz is a "Professional Bridesmaid" and the founder of Bridesmaid for Hire. She's the author of All My Friends Are Engaged and frequently wears old bridesmaid dresses to the grocery store and on first dates. *