9 Things to Do the Week After You're Asked to Be a Bridesmaid

Bride with her bridesmaids

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It's a privilege to be asked to be a friend's bridesmaid, but it's also a huge responsibility. As someone who considers herself a professional bridesmaid (and someone who created a business out of it!), I should know. It's an emotional and stressful time for the bride so your bride will definitely lean on you. Luckily, there are many ways for a bridesmaid to offer help and support, especially within the first week of being asked, to show your bride you're in it 100 percent.

You've been her go-to gal pal, her number one late night text message best friend, and her partner in some very laughable crimes. Now, you're about to be her bridesmaid. So, after you tissue off the happy tears and say "Yes, of course!" when she asks you if you'll be her bridesmaid, here are nine things you should remember to do soon after.

1. Introduce Yourself to Other Bridesmaids

Be the first to say hello to the other girls who will be strutting their stuff down the aisle with you. That way, you can break the ice and begin forming a relationship with them. It will also make it easier to coordinate later on! Also, if you think you can offer a hand with some parts of the planning, let the maid-of-honor know you're willing to help out.

2. Make It Public on Social Media

Once the bride gives you the OK, post a picture of the fun way the bride popped the question to you. Whether it was with a ring pop, a bottle of bubbly, or a handwritten card, share the love with your entire social world and make it social media official.

3. Make a Budget

If you're a first-time bridesmaid, you need to know that it can get expensive. Aside from paying for your dress, there are also gifts, and parties to attend (and throw), sometimes even involving travel. It's important to make a budget so you won't blow your entire savings account on someone else's party of a lifetime. If you're not sure how much to budget for what, break down each event that you'll be attending and jot down a list of estimated expenses for each.

4. Write out Your List of Demands

Or at least the dates you're unavailable during the next year or so. When the bride or maid of honor starts planning dates for the bridal shower or bachelorette party, it will be good if they have your "no-go" dates handy.

5. Pencil It In

Now that you've given the bride your no-go dates, mark down any important dates that she already has and wants you to save in your calendar. Include the bachelorette party, bridal shower, wedding date (of course), and even smaller milestones, such as when the bride is going dress shopping.

6. Read and Refresh on Bridesmaid Duties

Whether you've never been a bridesmaid or you've been one 16 times, it's always useful to flip through new wedding trends and bridesmaid etiquette to make sure you're in the loop on what to do. You wouldn't want to make a bridesmaid faux pas or, worse, hurt the bride's feelings without even knowing!

7. Ask for Advice

Pick the brains of other friends or family members of yours that have been bridesmaids recently. They can give you some tips and tricks for making it through the role stress-free and fill you in on what to expect.

8. Say Thank You

You might be so excited by the thought of taking on your new role as a bridesmaid that you may forget to say a gigantic thank you to the bride for asking you!

9. Get Excited

Because even though right now it might feel overwhelming, when it's all over, you'll wish you could do it just one more time.

A Bonus Tip: Practice Your Dance Moves

Because soon you'll find yourself as the life of the party once again.

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