Curious about what will really make your groom a happy husband? We have the answers!
We recently asked Marriage and Family Counselor Aaron Anderson from Denver's Marriage and Family Clinic what makes men happy in marriage. How do men want to feel loved and what can wives do to show their husbands they care? His insights might surprise you. Anderson says that the way women think of men sometimes ignores the very strong emotional aspect of manhood. "We're almost expected not to have emotions. But times have changed and men don't need to protect against wild predators who are trying to eat their families anymore. So underneath their calloused 'nothing bothers me' exterior, what do men really want in a relationship? Believe it or not, men want to feel loved and cared for — just as much as women do."
Men want to feel wanted not needed. Anderson says that, "Men want a woman who is fiercely independent, who has her own desires, goals, drives and plans how to achieve them. They like a wife who can accomplish her goals on her own (and will) but invites her husband to do things with her because it means more when he's there. Men want a woman who doesn't need them but she asks for him to be in her life because she wants him."
Men want to feel like a priority in their wife's world. They want to feel that their wife is in tune with them and their needs and not just the kids or their endless to-do list. They like to be romanced ajust as much as women do. They like to be taken out on dates or any kind of simple surprise that says, "I thought of you. This reminded me of you. I love you."
Men like to feel safe. Safety is not just physical. It is also emotional. Anderson explains: "A man likes to know that his wife won't take advantage of his shortcomings and will keep his insecurities safe while he's working on them. And a man especially wants to feel like his wife is supportive of him in his challenges and isn't using his challenges as reasons to walk away."
Maggie Reyes helps newlyweds plan their marriages with the same delight and devotion that they plan their weddings. She is a life coach, writer, and the founder of ModernMarried.com.