Your honeymoon will be all bedroom romps and luxurious lounge chairs on the beach with expertly-crafted cocktails, right? Not necessarily. "Many couples naturally assume that their honeymoon will be something akin to a chick flick with all its romance and passion," says Laura Brotherson, marriage and sex therapist and author of And They Were Not Ashamed: Strengthening Marriage through Sexual Fulfillment. And while it will certainly be wonderful, it will also be filled with surprises — little things no one ever told you about. Here, an inside scoop into what it will really be like.
1. You could be completely drained of energy — in other words, too tired for amazing sex. "Couples may not realize how exhausted they may be after their wedding preparations, travel, and the wedding day celebrations," says Brotherson. "And after a long though exciting wedding day, the first night may not always be the best time to have a great sexual experience together."
2. You might just have a fight. "I thought we'd be in such a love haze that we wouldn't bicker about anything that week," says one bride. "But the truth is, you're so tired that the littlest things tick you off." The bride admits it took a lot of effort on her part to keep things positive those first few days. "Of course, once you recuperate and stop acting cranky, it's the most amazing vacation you'll ever take!"
3. It may not live up to your expectations. You've been dreaming about this particular trip long enough to have made every imaginary moment movie-perfect. So that what you've dreamt up doesn't fall short, it's smart to discuss your expectations before you board your flight. Getting on the same page about everything from sex to how much R&R you'll crave can be "the best preparation for a wonderfully positive and fulfilling honeymoon experience," Brotherson says.
4. This trip will bring you closer. "I think any vacation in which you share experiences and make memories will bond two people," says another bride. "But there's something to be said for the first time you check into a hotel as 'Mr. and Mrs. So and So,' just like there's a special thrill in telling the waiter you're celebrating your first days as husband and wife. It really hits you on your honeymoon that you're really in this together."