When you've said "I do" to taking on the maid-of-honor duties for one of your closest friends in the world, it's likely you'll also take on a long list of things you'll be eager to get done to help out the bride before it's time to walk down the aisle. But along with your list of do's, you should also make a list of don'ts you should completely avoid doing at the wedding. Here are seven things the maid of honor should never do at a wedding.
You may have an urge to chat about every single memory you have with the bride and run through a list of inside jokes between the two of you, but in order to keep the room full of guests happy and awake, keep your toast under three minutes.
Just because the bar is open and you're ready to kick back and celebrate your maid-of-honor duties coming to an end, remember that all eyes are on you as the bride's go-to gal pal for the night, so avoid getting too drunk to function.
Even if the MOH dress the bride picked out for you to wear isn't flattering or something you'd usually wear, stick with the dress for the wedding night. Changing into another dress any time before the after-party is a major faux pas.
The wedding day is a very long day, and even if you'd like to sneak out early to hit the pillow, stay as long as you can to help the bride keep the party going—and to be there in case she needs any last-minute help.
Check your drama at the door and leave your complaints for the day after. Remember, the wedding day isn't about you, so if something is bugging you, try to take a deep breath and carry on.
If it's too hot out or you don't like the way your hair came out, complain to anyone and everyone else but the bride. She'll be dealing with enough stressful moments, so avoid overwhelming her with any extra ones.
It's okay to be the life of the party at the wedding, but try not to overshadow all the other guests and the main focus of the night: the couple getting married.
Jen Glantz is a "Professional Bridesmaid" and the founder of Bridesmaid for Hire. She's the author of All My Friends Are Engaged and frequently wears old bridesmaid dresses to the grocery store and on first dates.