Weddings are supposed to be happy occasions, full of love and support from your family and friends. But the joy in the air can’t stop everyone from having something to say! You might be focused on seeing your future spouse at the end of the aisle or really enjoying that honeymoon phase when—bam!—that bubble is burst by a snide remark or totally clueless comment. These recent brides spill on the things that made them stop in their tracks. Here’s hoping you can avoid them!
“‘I can’t believe you’re okay with having a baby bump on your wedding day!’ I was pregnant at our wedding and couldn’t believe how many people had something to say about it as our wedding day approached. Clearly there was nothing I could do about it, and putting the wedding off was not an option.” —Erika
“My ring was a little too big, so I took it to the jeweler to have it resized. He told me it was obnoxious!” —Danielle
“My dad told me I’d been disrespectful for not inviting my preteen stepsister to my adults-only bridal shower—you know, the one that I hadn’t planned; I was just the guest of honor!—because my friend brought her (infant and nursing) baby with her when she flew in from out of town to attend.” —Stephanie
“We were together for years before getting engaged. The worst were people’s ‘well-meaning’ offhanded comments, like ‘Wow, finally! I was worried this would never happen!’ Um, I’m sorry my life didn’t line up with your expected timeline of how I should live. (NOT SORRY!)” —Maria
“The most shocking comment I got was from none other than the groom’s father—the morning after our wedding! He looked at me and said, ‘You were really willing to date a man who was divorced and who already has kids?’ He was more clueless than anything else and couldn’t understand why a single girl would want that baggage.” — Allison
“The night of our wedding, my uncle stopped me to congratulate us…and then asked when we were having our first baby. He proceeded to invite himself to the baby shower, even after I told him we weren’t planning on having kids for a few years.” —Susan
“When we were taking family photos, my photographer missed a few shots on the list I’d given her, so my dad had to ask for photos of my husband and me with him, his mother, and his siblings. He accused me of leaving those pictures out on purpose and only caring about my mom’s extended family!” — Jackie