We really can’t say enough good things about lube. Lube makes sex better. It really is that simple. It doesn’t matter how turned on you are, lube will still enhance your experience. Whether you’re with a partner or flying solo, always use lube.
The problem? It can be hard to know which lube is right for you and what you should buy. Do you want a plant-based option? What the heck does silicone-based mean? Why do all these lubes come in mango-strawberry?
We get it. It’s confusing. Luckily we have the complete guide to lube for you right here!
Lube should be an essential component of your sex life. It provides a barrier against friction from penis, hand, or sex toy. Friction does not make vulvas or anuses happy. It doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you, it's just a fact.
No matter how wet your vagina gets naturally, there's always room for lube. It can even make your orgasms better and stronger, and enhances everything.
Other amazing benefits include: Less pain during penetration and increased sensitivity. If your partner is being a grade-A weirdo about using lube, just send him or her this article.
The whole, “I make her wet enough. We don’t need lube” trope is outdated and, frankly, boring. Anyone who says this probably doesn’t make you that wet anyway. Boom.
Know your ingredients
When it comes to lube, don’t buy crappy stuff. Your vagina is one of the most absorbent areas of the body. It deserves only high-quality ingredients.
Fun fact, the FDA doesn't require that companies disclose the ingredients that are in these products. Long story short: You don't know what's in there! So, you have to be wary of what is going inside your body. Only choose options that are flavorless, paraben-free, glycerine-free, and petrochemical free.
If possible, choose an organic option. Don’t go to the local Walgreens and buy something gross like KY Jelly. It’s bacterial vaginosis waiting to happen. If the list of ingredients has a bunch of crazy stuff that you’ve never heard of, it has no business going inside your body.
As a general rule: Stay away from flavored lubes. More on that later.
Types of lube
Why we love it: Water-based lube is kind of the jack-of-all-trades of personal lubricant. It goes with every kind of sexual act and you never really have to think about it. When in doubt, always choose a water-based option.
Downsides: It absorbs quite quickly (and can also become a bit tacky) and needs to be reapplied during sexual play.
Why we love it: Silicone lube is great for staying power. You barely ever have to reapply. It’s ideal for anal play. It is super slide-y, making it perfect for easy access.
Downsides: Silicone toys are not compatible with silicone lube. This can be tricky when you’re trying to use a vibrator during sex (or solo-play), an anal plug, or any other toy made of silicone.
Why we love it: Hybrid lube is a blend of silicone and water-based lube. You get all the benefits of water-based versatility and silicone-based slipperiness. It’s kind of a little miracle in a bottle.
Downsides: Sometimes a hybrid lube can still damage silicone toys, but it’s less likely. Check the labels to be sure. The recommendations below won’t damage your toys.
Why we love it: For those health-nuts out there, a plant-based option is as organic as you can get. If you want to go all-natural, a plant-based lube is your go-to. Oil-based lubes really stay on there. Aloe Vera, while not oil-based, is a favorite of sex coaching legend Betty Dodson. She even uses it in all of her hands-on workshops. Plus, you can buy all plant-based options at your local health food store.
Downsides: Oil-based plant options are great, but they are incompatible with latex condoms. It causes them to corrode and break. So, if you’re using condoms (and don’t use polyurethane condoms), you shouldn’t use an oil-based lubricant. Remember, when in doubt: Go for the water-based lube every time.
Side note: There are flavored lubes, but these should only be used for oral sex. Flavored lube can irritate the vulva. They are often full of glycerine, which feeds the yeast in your vagina. Hello, yeast infection! Don’t go there. Stick with some flavorless, odorless, and organic lube.
Now go forth and find the lube of your dreams! Keep it by the bed. Get a travel-sized option for trips. Enjoy your life!